Is it a turn-off if the person can't flirt back?

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Yeah it can be fun to flirt back and forth but some people just don't have it in them and are better at actually doing it, or just not that type of person. How do you feel if you're not getting back the response you expect and want?

Yes, Im a guy and its no fun if she cant get me as horny as I wanna be 49
Yes, Im a girl and the guy seems too reserved for a guy 33
No, Im a guy and understand if the girl is a little shy, little steps 93
No, Im a girl and if he can't flirt back then what can you do 46
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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    For me, flirting is about being on the same page as someone. If someone responds in a way that shows they've understood, it shows they understand you personally. If they respond and trump your flirtiness, then it becomes a game. It's all about saying something without actually saying it and knowing the other person knows exactly what you mean. How subtle you can be and how far away from the meaning you can go while the other person still understands is a sign of kinship between you and that's kind of attractive to me. I hate being misunderstood (although I am often).

    But a person doesn't have to be flirty for me to find them attractive. They could be quirky, caring, different, etc. As long as there's some basis for an interest in them.

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    • ComTlancy
      12 years ago

      A battle of wits is always fun to have.
      I once had a pun war with someone at a party; everyone left but us, but what had a grand old time.

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        You read my mind a little bit. I was going to say something about it being a little bit like choosing company of the same sex, but then didn't. We don't so much choose them by flirting with them but we try to appeal to them and want them to respond.

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        • ComTlancy
          12 years ago

          I guess the best way to flirt is literally be yourself and eventually you'll find someone who likes you. I sure hope someone out there loves music as much as puns and doesn't mind Nerf guns.

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          • dappled
            12 years ago

            I don't know why but women who like puns are a rare breed. I did meet one once, though. Don't know where she is now but she told me one of the best puns I've ever heard, and it was a pun about puns, which made it even better.

            She said she wanted to see how many of her puns were funny so she emailed ten of them to someone to see how many made them laugh. No pun in ten did.

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            • ComTlancy
              12 years ago

              Sadly, you're right women who like puns in Australia are a rare breed. I'm so longing for one that I almost completely overlook looks now. I just want a personality that clicks with mine.

              Also we are tied for the lead; I scored 1 up on you with the Pun wars (cold, punic, civil) and you evened up on me with the country puns.

              But you know what? My therapist says I have a preoccupation with vengence...we'll see about that.

              I suggest you look up on youtube, Words, Words, Words by Bo Burnham, took me ages to get all his puns. Alternatively, you could read my profile infomation.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I sure hope it isn't, because if I even think a girl is flirting with me I just grin stupidly, say something awkward and don't make eye contact. It just feels really awkward to me, flirting doesn't come naturally at all.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Not necessarily a turn-off but how am I to know if they're interested or not.

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  • beautiful_soul
    12 years ago

    I like serious guys, it doesn’t matter if they can’t flirt.. flirts are not my type...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think the shy personality is more appealing than the very confident personality.

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    OK where's the option that says: "I'm a guy and I don't know how to flirt or tell if I'm being flirted with??" etc.

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  • Dinocards
    12 years ago

    Flirting isnt a big key aspect for me. I like to flirt but if tye guy cant flirt back oh well. I just make it less awkward by telling funby jokes or comments. If a guy can cant flirt what ev. If i couldnt flirt then that would suck

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  • .Velveetuh.Cheeze.
    12 years ago

    i think if it turns you off it means you dont like the person...if u like someone them just saying hi can u make u giggle and smile

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  • likesototallyomg
    12 years ago

    If they didn't flirt back, I would lose my confidence around them. Either that, or I just won't do it again because of how awkward it gets.

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    • shuggy-chan
      12 years ago

      yeah, i agree, if they are shy its oky, and cute. and i take it as i have to be gentle and extra cute with my flirts, but if they are just. "idk" or like just like not responding, it kinda hurt ur confidence.... that why if u flirt with me, i come back twice as hard xDDDD

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    I'm not big on flirting. I don't see a point to it.
    I'm a 'just do it' kind of person.

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