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Is it normal that I don't like it when people flirt with me? I'm straight, but starting to feel maybe a little asexual, and regardless I don't like it when people flirt with me.
I think when me and my boyfriend inevitably break up I will be asexual. I think that because after all the shit he put me through, I don’t feel like risking something like that again. Also I don’t feel a physical attraction to anyone but him anymore. Maybe that will change with time.
But in all honesty, I’ve always been envious of asexuals.
No stds
No drama
No bullshit
As an asexual myself, i can assure you that there is still drama.
You want a connection with someone, but all they want is sex. They leave you because you wont put out for them, OR you put out for them to make them happy while sacrificing your own happiness.
People will think you're hiding something. When i told my father that i was asexual he thought i was fucking animals.... all because im a vegan and i like animals more than i like people....still a riduculous and disgusting accusation.
People will start not trusting you because they think youre hiding something. People will think youre a freak because your not interested in sex. Friends will leave because all they wanted was sex.
Theres definitly drama being an asexual in and of itself :(
i didn’t mean no drama. i should’ve said less drama in certain circumstances. some asexuals don’t want a relationship at all including sex. i assume there’s much less drama for those asexuals. also the asexuals who date other asexuals. although it’s probably tough to find another open asexual, if you find it, it would seem to be perfect. i know all relationships have some drama and what you describe does sound awful. i’m envious over the asexuals that don’t desire a relationship at all.
Its true that asexuals who can easily sustain themselves and dont desire a relationship would have a lot less hardships yeah! People in general are full of bullshit, but this is coming from myself, a misanthropist. But, in my opinion, you are totally right to say they would have a lot less stressors.
My dad always says that the cat is a cool customer who keeps his powder dry.
As a very sexual and not overly romantic cis-passing nonbinary individual: OMFG flirting literally makes me rage a lot of the time. It makes me feel really threatened and possibly even dirty. It's so weird and vague and unclear and arbitrary. [Spot the autistic!]
I do it myself sometimes, but my style of flirting is wildly different than the average flirting style. Some people think I'm flirting when I am categorically not doing so (?!), and I've never ever tried going out of my way to consciously flirt with a stranger.
I like making cis men prove they're worth my time by acting like an ice queen/bitch/tsundere.
It's a great way of weeding out the chaff, trust me!
What's even funnier is that most people aren't sure whether they enjoy the game or are terrified of it.
Best example: years ago, at some generic club for a now-ex-friend's birthday.
A guy comes up to me, tells me I smell nice. We start kissing before any other words or actions can be exchanged.
I bite his lip very forcefully then go back to the others for a dance, pointing and laughing at the now very dejected and glum-looking man walking downstairs.
That's totally normal and understandable. Just tell them that you don't actually like flirting, and that's it. If they are gentle and do really want to be with you, they'll stop flirting.
I think a lot of people act like if a person doesn't flirt then they're no fun, or whatever, but truthfully I just don't like it. I only enjoy flirting if it's someone I'm totally into, and there are mutual feelings, or if it's someone I know isn't into me, and it's completely just a joke. Most flirting is just weird and creepy to me.
This also happens to me. I find flirting creepy in so many ways, and I can't understand the people who like it. I mean, it's great if it's just a joke. But I don't like it in any other way, unless if we have been dating for some time.
I find flirting creepy too. Except in my case it's mostly boys ages 14-17 doing it. I'm like 30 but on a good day of sleep, I look like I'm friggin 15. They refuse to believe me when I say I'm old enough to be their mother and won't back off right away. Yuck!