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Husband's friend and I kiss often and really enjoy it. Deep kissing, not pecks on the cheek. We have never done more than hug and kiss. We enjoy the act but do not long to make love to each other. Has any one had this experience?
If everyone is okay with it, it's fine. It's your relationship, not ours. A lot of things are okay in a relationship, as long as both parties are on the same page.
My Bf encourages me to "slut around" with other women because a) The thought turns him on and b) He feels secure enough with me and our relationship.
As you say yourself, your husband is fine with this and his friend is too. I don't even need to say that it isn't an issue if this is the case.
....How can you feel secure about a relationship while encouraging your partner to cheat on you...?
He doesn't look at it as cheating. I didn't even brought it up but when we got together he informed me that with his ex it had been the same, if she wanted to fuck with girls he was fine with it, he approved heavily of it.
I asked him 3-4 times if he was SURE and he was. Put him to the test this past friday when I took turns kissing him and a female friend of mine. He fucking loved it and him and her teased me to a shivering pile of desire at a concert.
Oh boy was he horny when we came home and he had seen me kissing her for hours!
These sort of things isn't for everyone and I get that. It isn't cheating if you are encouraged and allowed to do it.
As I wrote for a guy girl on girl action is hot and not really a threat.
Don't be surprised if later says since you get to play with girls now he does too.
Or maybe he'll just do it.
You do realize he's obviously hot for your gf, don't you?
He also probably doesn't love you, but that's no concern since you're not married to him.
I've known lots of guys to be cool with their gf's fucking other girls and they hope to join in but never have known a single guy that was cool with his WIFE doing so.
I wasn't going against it, if that was your thought of my response, I just really don't understand, unless he understands you love him more than you do the girls you would be kissing, and so on, but even then there is a chance of a connection forming due to that intimacy with the other people.
I mean, if he likes it, then go at it, but I personally do not understand it.
And I'd say that you are perfectly normal for NOT understanding it. Most people aren't interested in these kinds of relationships where others are involved in intimacy. He said it was fine before I told him that I have never fallen for another girl, I kinda just look at them as friends/sluts (I'm saying sluts since i'm into BDSM)
I overall find women to be too emotional and lacking a penis for me to consider dating one.
"My Bf encourages me to "slut around" with other women because a) The thought turns him on and b) He feels secure enough with me and our relationship.
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If your husband was secure he wouldn't care if you slutted around with other guys, not women.
Girl on girl action is hot and fun for a guy.
Ask him if he's cool with you gang-banging other guys.
"As you say yourself, your husband is fine with this and his friend is too. I don't even need to say that it isn't an issue if this is the case."
Also not true.
It's foolish to think the other guy doesn't want to fuck this girl.
Guys don't just kiss for no reason. Also kissing is a very sexual act.
He/you must already have herpes, otherwise your moronic husband is letting you both risk getting it for no reason.
FYI in general men don't like sharing.
Just because you're husband is a moron doesn't mean your marriage is going to be a healthy one.
I expect you to cheat soon or if your husband is cool with it, well that's your life.
I really don't know why anyone would marry someone else and be cool with them fucking around unless they're cheating on you (or want to) and feel guilty.
No point in getting married.
I don't understand it to be honest. Any intimate physical sharing outside of a significant other on either end turns me off and kinda nauseates me. I have a female friend who is a pagan and has been in what she refers to as polyamorous relationships. That's her business but I'm not into sharing.
Your husband is okay with this?
You must have married a wet stack of newspapers.
I think the thought of kissing a friend to lead nowhere is romantic. Why does society seem to have a problem with it? Its just a kiss and a warm connection.
On the other hand, I think sex outside a marriage is wrong; especially sex with a member of the same sex... I know the tar and feathers are coming ... from everybody!!
Is probably hotter than old school british porn (please refer to the joke they made about it in Family guy)
Boy, this one sounds kinky.
As above, if everybody is OK with this then I see no harm, but it could get out of control really fast, leaving all three of you with hard feelings and worse, perhaps costing you your marriage.