Is he wierd?

it isn't a good idea to let kids get in the habit of sleeping with you. it gets to be a problem as they get older.

him touching you when the kid was there is way out of line.

I think it's normal for you to feel uncomfortable and want the bed to the two of you. But I also think it's normal for him to instinctivly stick up for his daughter. That is going a bit far to get so mad, but it's normal

Did u ever talk to him about it later after she wasnt there? "I dont feel comfortable having sexual contact when she is in bed with us..."? Is that not a reasonable feeling to have? Seems odd to me.

yeah the kid in the bed while touching u is a bit disturbing. he just cares about hsi kid a lot but he also needs to let his daughter have her own room so she wont be afraid of the dark and by herself a lot. dats the only thing he needs to fix and when it is then its all good and dandy from there on

Ok first off that is culture telling you it is weird to have the child sleep in bed with parents. In many countries the sleep as a family untill kids are almost ten. Him trying to have sex with you while she is in bed is not ok. But if you are not condortavle with the situation it isn't at ok situation.

That is really creepy & I would have done the same thing. You are not wrong, he is. As far as the sexual stuff, that is the creepy part, 4 yr olds are not babies...They know whats going on. She should sleep in her own bed. I would wonder about why hes so attached to having her in bed with him & why hes so angry at you now. Its strange.

As far as her sleeping in the same bed as you guys I don't think there is anything wrong w that or her and she will not turn out weird because of it. I have two young kids of my own 4 and younger, and know plenty of other families with young kids that will sleep in bed with them. Granted it's a huge hassel sometimes for the parents but not weird. They just feel safest there. They are practically babies still. It won't last long and there are positive ways to get her into her own bed. Now the sex thing well I don't knw. So I can't say. Don't over react it tho. Seriously.

No that's not normal. I could see once in a great while letting the child sleep in the same bed like if she has a nightmare or something but not all the time. Not only is it a bad habit but the fact he tries to get sexual with you while she is in the bed is not right. You should keep an eye on him around her at night.

I know a child psychiatrist that believes all kids that sleep with their parents turn out wierd.

I think YOU are weird for even wondering if this is normal.

No way is that normal. I'm uncomfortable sometimes with my adult children in the other room.