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when ur a dude and you go to a massage parlor trying to get a happy ending, is that a reason for their gf not to trust them?
It's cheating, so of course it's a reason not to trust them. It's a reason to dump them.
It's still cheating unless it's allowed by those in the relationship. Most people would consider it cheating if their significant other did that.
He just making up that bullshit to fit his storyline so he can do whatever he wants, and you will put up with it. He's probably a very selfish person who say whatever bullshit he can come up with to get what he wants. I bet he abuses drugs, and alcohol too, huh?
So? He could have sex with someone else and there wouldn't be any emotional attachment to it, in fact most of the time people cheat there isn't any emotional attachment.
I honestly think guys who go to massage parlors for sexual encounters are jerks, losers and sex addicts who aren't worth the time it takes to tell them to get lost. Guys like that are garbage.
I wouldn't want to date someone like that, because it's like going to a prostitute. I suppose a single guy could do that, because he wouldn't be cheating on anyone, but regardless it's something that I believe is immoral, and it's something of which I disapprove.
The question is, why does a guy with a perfectly virile girlfriend feel the need to pay a chick at a massage parlor to fire his flesh musket?
... because he had a fear of intimacy, especially emotional intimacy, and a fear of committment. I think a guy like that is a selfish child emotionally, and not worth a minute of time.
That'd be very difficult for me to answer. I don't know his mindset and the ins & outs of your relationship with him. But there's no denying that, whatever the reason, it's foul and blatantly disrespectful toward you.
... because he's probably a narcissistic abuser who is trying not gaslight you. Dump him, and go no contact.
At least go to the library, and read some books on narcissists, and or get you the Kindle app and download some books on narcissists. Also read books on codependency.