Actually, no, I haven't been there. I have never gotten to the point that I was too drunk to know what I was doing because I'm the one who gets to control how much I drink. No one's bending my elbow for me.
It's no excuse. You had the choice a few drinks ago to say, "You know, I should probably slow down." You had the choice to tell the other person you were with someone while you were still sober enough to remember that fact. You had the choice to leave the party early or have a friend keep an eye on you or go with your boyfriend/girlfriend -- in short, there are a lot of steps along the path that led to cheating, and you could have stopped at just about any of them.
Don't try to excuse it. Own up to it, apologize abjectly and profusely, and don't try to blame one bad choice (cheating) on your other bad choice (drinking too much). It might not save the relationship, but it's the best chance you have.
This all applies only if you aren't blacked out or otherwise unable to give consent. If someone did things to you while you were unconscious, you weren't cheating; you were assaulted.
Is being drunk a valid excuse for cheating in a relationship?
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Actually, no, I haven't been there. I have never gotten to the point that I was too drunk to know what I was doing because I'm the one who gets to control how much I drink. No one's bending my elbow for me.
It's no excuse. You had the choice a few drinks ago to say, "You know, I should probably slow down." You had the choice to tell the other person you were with someone while you were still sober enough to remember that fact. You had the choice to leave the party early or have a friend keep an eye on you or go with your boyfriend/girlfriend -- in short, there are a lot of steps along the path that led to cheating, and you could have stopped at just about any of them.
Don't try to excuse it. Own up to it, apologize abjectly and profusely, and don't try to blame one bad choice (cheating) on your other bad choice (drinking too much). It might not save the relationship, but it's the best chance you have.
This all applies only if you aren't blacked out or otherwise unable to give consent. If someone did things to you while you were unconscious, you weren't cheating; you were assaulted.