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Im in a relationship but kissed another person. We kissed while drunk and i immediately felt bad and stopped. I can't stop thinking about it and I regret it deeply. Is it cheating? Should I tell my partner?
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If I were you I'd just put it down to a drunken mistake & learn from it. Leave it a week or two & then see how you feel, if it is still eating you up then you may have to tell them. I wouldn't throw away a long term loving relationship for a minor, alcohol induced, error of judgement.
Ultimately it is down to your conscience.
I don't know why people are trying to justify it, cheating is cheating no matter how small the deed! Only cucks would allow their gfs to get away with kissing another guy. I know since I am a cuck myself.
You sound like someone that has never been in a relationship and is likely a virgin. You pulled the cuckhold card over a kiss. He/she/they pulled away and thought better of it. Could you be more insecure? What do you consider cheating vice president pence? Eye contact? Thoughts? Go get laid. This interaction and decision could not be more moral.
Let your never been tested sanctimonious virgin ass judge something else.
What's cheating and what's not is based off of personal preference that should be talked about with your partner. If you feel he would consider it cheating then you already have your answer. YES, it's cheating.
If you want advice, doing the right thing doesn't always come with the best results. If you tell him, he will 100% flip out and get mad, you will get into a huge argument and then break up. So it's up to you to decide if you want to be a unfaithful and dishonest person or unfaithful but honest.
All from the perspective of a self-proclaimed insecure and possessive asshole boyfriend. That has had a lot of failed relationships. Our kind needs a super clingy and broken girl that would get mad at the thought of us talking to anyone but her. So I actually blame your asshole boyfriend for even trying to be in a relationship with you knowing it would never work out.
Yes and yes if there was a talk about exclusivity. Humans aren't designed for monogamy though, which makes situations like this common. This will open up a sticky relationship talk about expectations and boundaries, but it's important as a couple to have those talks. Some people want to be free to kiss others, because kissing is nice. Shame and betrayal are not so nice though, which is why so much of communication is formed around honesty, trust and consent. As long as it's informed, it's really no issue. If it was never addressed, now is the time. That's my advice.
I want to talk about it but my partner is very jealous and possessive and definitely won't be ok with this. I don't want to ruin our relationship because of a stupid mistake but I also want to get this off my chest. Is been half a year and i still can't forget it.
I don't think it's fair for you to bring it up and dump your guilt by upsetting him.
You cheated, it's yours to live with. You will most likely need to break up with him if you can't get over it.
If he is jealous and possessive you should break up anyway cause he is an asshole.
"If he is jealous and possessive you should break up anyway cause he is an asshole."
Very true, particularly since it seems you (OP) are afraid that your boyfriend hearing about a drunken kiss six months ago would be enough to set him off.
Big red flag.
"If he is jealous and possessive he is an asshole"...
Really? If you partner is jealous/possesive and does not approve sexual/romantic/intimate stuff with other people it means he/she is an asshole? You want someone who is not jealous and possesive and agrees to sharing you?
Unless this is a very fine sarcasm I miss, I lost all my respect for you people.
She didn't cheat. She just kissed someone after a few drinks. I say let it go. It's not that big a deal.
I think it's not a too big of a deal, I still regret it but i don't think it's something worth ending a 3 year relationship but my boyfriend wont think that way. I will tell him and and I hope he can forgive me.
If your boyfriend got drunk and kissed someone, you'd be like "go for it babe, use more tongue!! Woo party!"??? That's what I'm getting from this. Why would you be unfaithful to someone you love. Just don't get into relationships if you can't handle the responsibilities and sacrifices that come with them.
Yes it's going to suck. From experience jealousy and posessiveness are qualities of insecurity, fear at their root of not being good enough - but you obviously want to stay with your partner or there would be no conflict.
You consider this a mistake, which is good, but now you can learn something from it and move on or take the secret to your grave. I believe inbeing honest with my partner, even when i make mistakes. I expect the same from them because they agreed to it. That's what we agreed to, but at the end of the day you just have to decide what you personally can live with. Having a good, lasting relationship is difficult.
For y'all who is saying that it's fine coz she was drunk...
well no it's not,being drunk doesn't justify for what she did.
cheating is cheating whether you are drunk or not.what if your gf/bf makes the same excuse to you every time.
buy kissing him did you mean you sucked him till he shot cum into your mouth? because i used t kiss that way . or was he fingering your pussy while he was kissing you because i kissed that way too. come to think of it i have never kissed a woman without fucking her. yep he is going to be real happy with you. so are you here bragging about it ?
fuck i know , tell him when you are drunk. its perfect . he just think you are drunk or he will poke you in the eye and it won't hurt.
Depends on what kind of kiss if it's on the cheek than I would say no it's not cheating if it's lip movement than yes
Yes. Alot of people think that anything beyond a handshake or pat on the back is crossing the lines into cheating. Even a hug, unless maybe it's a one arm hug standing back without the front of your bodies touching each other.
It's cheating unless you are drunk. It's not cheating when you're drunk because most drunken people don't know what they are doing until they do it or the alcohol is out of their system. You should tell your boyfriend/husband but tell him you were drunk.
No when you drink you are not yourself. We live in a society that doesn't recognize this and in so doing puts innocent people who did stuff while drunk in jail. While drunk we are innocent of whatever we do, we are not us, if anyone doesn't understand get drunk yourself and you will understand.
A kiss while drunk isn't cheating, your boyfriend should understand this...