What you are talking about is the patients response. It didnt bother you that there were 3 males present during your exam and you were not embarrassed about wearing a pad to the surgery. Also you felt it was no big deal that a female nurse showed your father how to Cath himself. I believe that is a big part of what works well in the health care system. Patients generally feel comfortable with their health care providers because the staff are trained to facilitate a good bed side manner and generally patients are very safe no matter who the health care professional is. Not all health care providers are comfortable in the same situations. I know nurses who hate having to Cath men and chose OB/Gyn as an area to avoid that kind of contact on purpose. Not everyone is the same... People are people no matter the profession.
FYI I am in the US and you are wrong about female nurses always being present for Gyn exams. It is only a recommendation to have a chaperone for intimate exams. The chaperone is there for the health care providers safety not the patients. Each group has there own rules about this. Most use a chaperone most of the time. There are times when it doesnt happen. The chaperone can also be a male nurse... Not often though. Men almost never get a male chaperone when a female health care provider examines them.
I really dont think this is a safety issue. Our health care system has made it very safe with minimal cases of actual abuse.
My situation isnt about the doctor patient relationship. Many people are naive about who their doctor is and what he thinks... thats fine. Its probably easier for people to get health care under that myth.
My issue is how do I fix the trust and communication in my marriage? How do I get the intimacy back when I feel it is no longer something just between us? How do I forgive the feelings of betrayal?
Intimacy gone with Medical profession wife (MA)
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What you are talking about is the patients response. It didnt bother you that there were 3 males present during your exam and you were not embarrassed about wearing a pad to the surgery. Also you felt it was no big deal that a female nurse showed your father how to Cath himself. I believe that is a big part of what works well in the health care system. Patients generally feel comfortable with their health care providers because the staff are trained to facilitate a good bed side manner and generally patients are very safe no matter who the health care professional is. Not all health care providers are comfortable in the same situations. I know nurses who hate having to Cath men and chose OB/Gyn as an area to avoid that kind of contact on purpose. Not everyone is the same... People are people no matter the profession.
FYI I am in the US and you are wrong about female nurses always being present for Gyn exams. It is only a recommendation to have a chaperone for intimate exams. The chaperone is there for the health care providers safety not the patients. Each group has there own rules about this. Most use a chaperone most of the time. There are times when it doesnt happen. The chaperone can also be a male nurse... Not often though. Men almost never get a male chaperone when a female health care provider examines them.
I really dont think this is a safety issue. Our health care system has made it very safe with minimal cases of actual abuse.
My situation isnt about the doctor patient relationship. Many people are naive about who their doctor is and what he thinks... thats fine. Its probably easier for people to get health care under that myth.
My issue is how do I fix the trust and communication in my marriage? How do I get the intimacy back when I feel it is no longer something just between us? How do I forgive the feelings of betrayal?