I honestly don't see what the big deal is. It shouldn't matter if a doctor is male or female. A female nurse showed my dad how to cath himself when he had some urological problems, and it was no big whoop. I've had both male and female gynecologists in the past and it makes no difference to me.
Three months ago I had an upper and lower (colon) GI scope, the doctor, anesthesiologist and nurse were all male. Oh, and did I mention I got my period the night before the proceedure. I'm not comfortable wearing tampons, so yes, I went in there wearing a pad.
You need to try to just get over it and stop trying to interfere with your wife's career. Doctors are professionals regardless of gender, and if a doctor is inappropriate with a patient or nurse for that matter I'm sure they can be reported or arrested just like anyone else.
I dunno where ya'll are from, but here in the U.S. a female nurse is always present when a male doctor performs a gynecological exam.
What you are talking about is the patients response. It didnt bother you that there were 3 males present during your exam and you were not embarrassed about wearing a pad to the surgery. Also you felt it was no big deal that a female nurse showed your father how to Cath himself. I believe that is a big part of what works well in the health care system. Patients generally feel comfortable with their health care providers because the staff are trained to facilitate a good bed side manner and generally patients are very safe no matter who the health care professional is. Not all health care providers are comfortable in the same situations. I know nurses who hate having to Cath men and chose OB/Gyn as an area to avoid that kind of contact on purpose. Not everyone is the same... People are people no matter the profession.
FYI I am in the US and you are wrong about female nurses always being present for Gyn exams. It is only a recommendation to have a chaperone for intimate exams. The chaperone is there for the health care providers safety not the patients. Each group has there own rules about this. Most use a chaperone most of the time. There are times when it doesnt happen. The chaperone can also be a male nurse... Not often though. Men almost never get a male chaperone when a female health care provider examines them.
I really dont think this is a safety issue. Our health care system has made it very safe with minimal cases of actual abuse.
My situation isnt about the doctor patient relationship. Many people are naive about who their doctor is and what he thinks... thats fine. Its probably easier for people to get health care under that myth.
My issue is how do I fix the trust and communication in my marriage? How do I get the intimacy back when I feel it is no longer something just between us? How do I forgive the feelings of betrayal?
Intimacy gone with Medical profession wife (MA)
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I honestly don't see what the big deal is. It shouldn't matter if a doctor is male or female. A female nurse showed my dad how to cath himself when he had some urological problems, and it was no big whoop. I've had both male and female gynecologists in the past and it makes no difference to me.
Three months ago I had an upper and lower (colon) GI scope, the doctor, anesthesiologist and nurse were all male. Oh, and did I mention I got my period the night before the proceedure. I'm not comfortable wearing tampons, so yes, I went in there wearing a pad.
You need to try to just get over it and stop trying to interfere with your wife's career. Doctors are professionals regardless of gender, and if a doctor is inappropriate with a patient or nurse for that matter I'm sure they can be reported or arrested just like anyone else.
I dunno where ya'll are from, but here in the U.S. a female nurse is always present when a male doctor performs a gynecological exam.
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What you are talking about is the patients response. It didnt bother you that there were 3 males present during your exam and you were not embarrassed about wearing a pad to the surgery. Also you felt it was no big deal that a female nurse showed your father how to Cath himself. I believe that is a big part of what works well in the health care system. Patients generally feel comfortable with their health care providers because the staff are trained to facilitate a good bed side manner and generally patients are very safe no matter who the health care professional is. Not all health care providers are comfortable in the same situations. I know nurses who hate having to Cath men and chose OB/Gyn as an area to avoid that kind of contact on purpose. Not everyone is the same... People are people no matter the profession.
FYI I am in the US and you are wrong about female nurses always being present for Gyn exams. It is only a recommendation to have a chaperone for intimate exams. The chaperone is there for the health care providers safety not the patients. Each group has there own rules about this. Most use a chaperone most of the time. There are times when it doesnt happen. The chaperone can also be a male nurse... Not often though. Men almost never get a male chaperone when a female health care provider examines them.
I really dont think this is a safety issue. Our health care system has made it very safe with minimal cases of actual abuse.
My situation isnt about the doctor patient relationship. Many people are naive about who their doctor is and what he thinks... thats fine. Its probably easier for people to get health care under that myth.
My issue is how do I fix the trust and communication in my marriage? How do I get the intimacy back when I feel it is no longer something just between us? How do I forgive the feelings of betrayal?