As a single black woman, I can tell you that many of us wish that men of different races and ethnicities would openly express their interest in us.
Some black women, especially if they were raised 'old school' and in the church are taught though to wait for the man to approach them and not to show interest first for fear of coming across as loose or promiscuous. This might sound silly in this day and age, but there is a whole history behind it in which many black women were treated as only sexual objects, specifically by white men. Today it is through popular culture in general in most rap videos, etc.
This is not to discourage you, but to enlighten you. You should still pursue it, but since you mention that you work with her, just be careful in your approach so that it isn't misconstrued as any kind of inappropriate conduct.
I recommend the other poster's suggestion that you ask her to lunch and take it slow and get to know her more as a friend first. After having lunch a few times then let her know that you are interested.
This is key because then you would have had the opportunity to have several conversations with her and she will think you are now genuinely interested in her and not just curious to get her in the sack because you wonder what black girls are like, or have some sort of fetish, etc. (Yes, many of us have that fear/insecurity)
I think if you start slow with the lunches and have some good conversation, it can defintely grow into something more. Good luck!
Interracial Dating, White guy/Black girl
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As a single black woman, I can tell you that many of us wish that men of different races and ethnicities would openly express their interest in us.
Some black women, especially if they were raised 'old school' and in the church are taught though to wait for the man to approach them and not to show interest first for fear of coming across as loose or promiscuous. This might sound silly in this day and age, but there is a whole history behind it in which many black women were treated as only sexual objects, specifically by white men. Today it is through popular culture in general in most rap videos, etc.
This is not to discourage you, but to enlighten you. You should still pursue it, but since you mention that you work with her, just be careful in your approach so that it isn't misconstrued as any kind of inappropriate conduct.
I recommend the other poster's suggestion that you ask her to lunch and take it slow and get to know her more as a friend first. After having lunch a few times then let her know that you are interested.
This is key because then you would have had the opportunity to have several conversations with her and she will think you are now genuinely interested in her and not just curious to get her in the sack because you wonder what black girls are like, or have some sort of fetish, etc. (Yes, many of us have that fear/insecurity)
I think if you start slow with the lunches and have some good conversation, it can defintely grow into something more. Good luck!