Interenet love...improbable?

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So, this summer, i fell for a guy over the internet. I decided to message him on a poetry site, and then add him on msn...we got talking and i found my heart fluttering at our flirty banter...still i had a constant reminder he could be fictional and i hardly gave anything away about myself. He claimed he was lonely, and bulllied and depressed after the death of a close friend. I tried my hardest to cheer him up, saying i'd always be there. Then he started to care about me, tell me go sleep cause its not good for my health to stay up. But then he got suicidal, each time i said goodbye, i feared it was for the last time, and i fought with all my might to say the right thing to keep him alive. Right before i left somewhere for three weeks, he said he loved me. When i was away, i felt lonely and lost, and the only person i missed was him. and i was worried he wouldnt be there. It hurt so much, i thought i must love him. When i got home, told him so, and we sort of started dating ... but then all he did was tell me how much he needed me, how much he loved me. WHen i still hadnt told him much about myself... so i started to...and then he got quiet...he became depressed again, wouldnt say much, then he claimed it was bipolar...thats what he claimed the drs said. and it made sense...and then school started and i didnt talk to him as much, i started remembering real people i know, and my feeling for them...and my love turned out to be obsession...and i kept talking to him more as a friend...until i caught him in a lie-and i still havent forgiven him...but now its over and i just want to know....was he completely playing me? and if he was what would he have to gain? and is it normal of me to feel like i did? for me to fall for someone i'd never even met ?

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  • rubish1
    6 years ago | pl

    i think it was fine but its a good thing, things broke off I think he needed some professional help. other than that go find someone else. and if you need someone to talk to you can talk to me:D I probably got nothing better to do.

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago | pl

    Normal but totally pull right back. Don't feel bad for how you were feeling though.

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  • deviantd
    12 years ago | pl

    I can't say for sure if he was playing you. It sounds like he wanted or needed your attention.

    It also sounds like he has some serious mental problems. If he was going to that extent to get your attention and playing you, it's not normal.

    If he was telling you the truth, still not normal. You are probably very lucky things never got more serious. He could very easily be a predator and who knows how you could have ended up.

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  • theWARwhore
    13 years ago | pl

    Sounds norm

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  • beachmike
    13 years ago | pl

    Your normal. I've made that mistake. It easy to develop deep emotional feelings when you talk so long, He was looking for a safe relationship where its difficult to be rejected. I think there is always a giver as you and a taker in him. I think telephone, internet and long distance relationships will lead to unhappiness and depression. We need to be physically around someone to know who they are really before we fall in love!

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  • Northlife
    13 years ago | pl

    This is completely normal, the same thing happened to me. I suspect that he was playing you, but only for his own satisfaction as he probably had very low self esteem. The guy i was talking to sometimes harmed himself and always said how amazing I was and how he loved me, and I could tell he wanted me to say it back to him so he could feel like someone cared about him. I too became obsessed with talking to him, and my friends got sick of me talking about him as i hadn't even met him. It's completely normal and i think you got a thrill out of having a connection with a stranger. It's much healthier to have a relationship with someone you don't know over the internet as you can experience a much deeper bond :) These guys need the help of a professional, you shouldn't have to live with the guilt of feeling like you made him depressed when really he was manipulating you.

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