Insecure vs. arrogant people
It feels like insecure people are hated more than arrogant ones. Wtf? I'm the exact opposite. Anyone up to explaining? Thanks!
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worriedgirlhere
It's funny you say this because...I have been mistaken as arrogant by a few amount of people (people who know little to nothing about me) when really I'm pretty dang shy and I guess insecure. More insecure than arrogant for sure.
People assume because I don't say much and "ignore" people, one can be seen as arrogant. In fact...my best friend has been seen as arrogant by many people but. because I know her so well, I know she's just shy around other people. We're both comfortable talking to eachother and don't find eachother to be arrogant...hence our friendship. Makes sense how we're best friends huh?
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[Old Memory]
Unfortunately a lot of times this comes down to physical appearance, an ugly person would be construed as shy while a physically attractive person would almost certainly be labeled as arrogant.
Most people make this snap judgment before saying anything at all to the person in question.
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[Old Memory]
It's because peoples insecurities can be irritating sometimes. Its hard to have fun with someone who constantly complains and sets up their own failure.
Arrogance can be annoying too if someone refuses to be open minded and wont listen.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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Anime7
Arrogant people can be funny, charming, and not boring to be around. That's what I think it all comes down to, who bores you. An insecure person might bring you down whenever you're around them and eventually it might be too much of a hassle to constantly have to make them smile. It might be a one-sided relationship. At least with the other guy, you can have fun.
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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
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NeuroNeptunian
They are two different behavioral reflections of the same inner insecurities.
That is assuming that they are actually that way and it is not just your opinion of them because they were right and you were wrong or they are just being honest about their abilities (or lack thereof).
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Anonymous Post Author
That's a good point. Though I guess the arrogant people I'm referring to are ones who are arrogant as a result of either having money, being intelligent, being in a position of power, being popular with the opposite gender, etc. Those are the kind that get on my nerves. (and if I happen to come across as arrogant right now, I apologize)
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jeebley
Oh, those people are just cunts.
Well adapted people are neither insecure or arrogant, don't you think? It's just that the arrogant ones (in this crazy mixed up world we live in) can convince people, for a time, of their faux-awesomeness. Their long-term friends will also be cunts/douchebags/assholes. Others will just get sick of them.Insecure people are far, far more endearing in my opinion. But insecurity manifests in different ways - even in arrogance... so, ya know. (I don't know).
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ringneckdove
I tend to look at body language. For example, if a guy stands with his legs wide apart and his arms folded, he's probably a person I would loathe. I really don't like when people are arrogant too since the trait makes me think that they are not open to change or other's opinions. I know people who are assumed to be "stuck up ice queens" because they seem arrogant when they are shy in actuality. On the other hand, no one is going to assume I'm arrogant because basically all of my body says "I AM VERY UNCOMFORTABLE RIGHT NOW" at all times. lol
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