"'I build my own sense of identity and protect it so I can see who's the weakest link...'
How does protecting your identity help you see who's the weakest link?"
I don't want to let people's opinion of me get the best of me. Like, for explain, if someone say "I don't think you should be close-minded", I can see that guy is try to take advantage of you and make you look bad to him, but it's clearly to me that he barely know who I am. In fact, I AM close-minded to some people I disgust, I like it way so there is nothing they can do about it. You know, I've always been fascinated with Les Buscaglia's famous quote, "Only the week is cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong." Which that lead to next part of my sentence...
"'...usually any kind of invalidator...'
Normally, invalidator isn't a word typically used in the English language and if it is, it is used to refer to an official (like someone in an government job) who can invalidate or nullify things. So, using this word in your sentence makes no sense at all."
I looked up the word invalidate and result of synonyms show up: abate, weaken, impair, disprove, refute, rebut. Maybe that is the wrong word, but as far as I can see, I don't think there is any reason that I should replace that word. IMO, it have to do more than official stuffs alone.
"I am also confused by some conflicting ideas in the next part of your sentence with the sentence following it:
'...my wall still do tend to melt almost completely when anyone is around me. What they don't know is how different I am when I'm by myself...'
If your wall melts around people, then wouldn't it be safe to assume that they do know the real you? Your sentences contradict one another."
By wall melts around people, I mean I'm being polite toward them. It's not like I'm going to tell them right away what I don't like about them, I mean, don't it ever occur to you that someone you trusted would talk behind your back, sure as, I don't know, your best friend?
"'...without let them know after I've seem enough about who they really are.'
What????"
Okay okay, lemme tell you what happened to me, one year ago I met a friend through my lil bro. At first I thought he seem to be cool, but as time pass, he always joke about that I don't even think is funny at all, mostly gay stuffs. And he don't even care what people thinking, sure as he asked me if I can share my bedroom with him, I said sure he can sleep on couch, but he lock my out and slept on my bed with his girlfriend. And he often asked me to party around with him and his friends at his house, which is same things all over again and again, it's getting tiresome. So since my opinion don't matter to me, I stopped contract him, with tell him the reason why I want to move on. That is an explaination, if I see him again I won't tell him how jackass he is, I just keep my mouth shut up. That is my whole point of post my question here.
INN to be more cruel when alone then socialize with people?
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"'I build my own sense of identity and protect it so I can see who's the weakest link...'
How does protecting your identity help you see who's the weakest link?"
I don't want to let people's opinion of me get the best of me. Like, for explain, if someone say "I don't think you should be close-minded", I can see that guy is try to take advantage of you and make you look bad to him, but it's clearly to me that he barely know who I am. In fact, I AM close-minded to some people I disgust, I like it way so there is nothing they can do about it. You know, I've always been fascinated with Les Buscaglia's famous quote, "Only the week is cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong." Which that lead to next part of my sentence...
"'...usually any kind of invalidator...'
Normally, invalidator isn't a word typically used in the English language and if it is, it is used to refer to an official (like someone in an government job) who can invalidate or nullify things. So, using this word in your sentence makes no sense at all."
I looked up the word invalidate and result of synonyms show up: abate, weaken, impair, disprove, refute, rebut. Maybe that is the wrong word, but as far as I can see, I don't think there is any reason that I should replace that word. IMO, it have to do more than official stuffs alone.
"I am also confused by some conflicting ideas in the next part of your sentence with the sentence following it:
'...my wall still do tend to melt almost completely when anyone is around me. What they don't know is how different I am when I'm by myself...'
If your wall melts around people, then wouldn't it be safe to assume that they do know the real you? Your sentences contradict one another."
By wall melts around people, I mean I'm being polite toward them. It's not like I'm going to tell them right away what I don't like about them, I mean, don't it ever occur to you that someone you trusted would talk behind your back, sure as, I don't know, your best friend?
"'...without let them know after I've seem enough about who they really are.'
What????"
Okay okay, lemme tell you what happened to me, one year ago I met a friend through my lil bro. At first I thought he seem to be cool, but as time pass, he always joke about that I don't even think is funny at all, mostly gay stuffs. And he don't even care what people thinking, sure as he asked me if I can share my bedroom with him, I said sure he can sleep on couch, but he lock my out and slept on my bed with his girlfriend. And he often asked me to party around with him and his friends at his house, which is same things all over again and again, it's getting tiresome. So since my opinion don't matter to me, I stopped contract him, with tell him the reason why I want to move on. That is an explaination, if I see him again I won't tell him how jackass he is, I just keep my mouth shut up. That is my whole point of post my question here.