Inn that i don't want to hang out with her?

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So first of all, we're both girls, and both friends. But she also has a lot of other friends and I have recently lost two of my closest friends.
However, despite her plethora of friends she seems to only want to hang out with me. Every day she'll ask if she can come over and I have to think of some way to say 'no.'
Plus, when she does come over, she only wants to do things she wants to do. Like use my computers and my guitar. She also can't stay entertained for more than thirty minutes before asking me "what should we do now?"
At times she can be a great friend, but most the time I just wish she'd hang out with her other friends and LEAVE ME THE FREAK ALONE.

is it normal to feel this way? And is it normal for her to act this way?

(Ps, her other friends really like her. Atleast from what I've seen and what they've told me)

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    It's common for there to be some imbalance in friendships; one friend is often more interesting in spending time together than the other is. Maybe she just thinks you're a very cool girl. You may not particularly enjoy being with her, but she likes being with you.

    Or maybe it's the emotional distance you're keeping that she finds attractive? Some people are like that. If someone is indifferent, they feel they have to make them like them.

    It seems you like to sort of hang out separately, but she wants to do things with you. That's why she asks for your suggestions about things to do. It sounds like she wants to do something you enjoy.

    It can be annoying to have someone you aren't wild about behaving like your personal fan club or a little puppy desperate to please you, but try not to be too harsh. Unless you're a truly amazing person, you'll probably find as you get older that there aren't that many people who are desperate to make the effort to spend time with you. You don't have to put up with that if they're totally obnoxious, but it's not a great idea to push decent people away.

    If you feel you need a little more personal space, why not tell her?

    Finally, some people push others away because they don't really believe they are deserving of friendship. "If you like me, you must be shit, because nobody but a total loser would like someone like me." I hope that's not the case here.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks for the thought provoking response. You definitely gave me something to think about.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    "You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose" whatever the hell that means , George Carlin is dead .

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