Yes that makes sense. But only where that's the only way. Otherwise, you get into trouble when you can avoid them. In the case of defending her girl, if he can't simply retreat with her somewhere safe and avoid a confrontation, then of course combat is justified and I'd say manly. Otherwise it's wise to stay safe, you don't need to prove anybody anything, just to stay safe. But he seems to overreact where it is not a necessity. It's just that he can't control it. That leads to problems he doesn't need as results of actions that doesn't help him. Sounds different to me and shouldn't be done. You don't really want to get suspended from job/uni/school or get into trouble over minor things that can easily be avoided, like verbaly attacking a police officer when you can simply ignore the potential bullshit and move on.
Good interpretation of what I meant. So, what do you suggest? I've made a lifetime of avoiding confrontation with fairly good results, but I guess it's the times when I can't back out and can't diffuse the situation that I feel cornered and desperate, and thusly feel as though I need to lash out. And boy, do I lash out. I cringe to admit it but when I made old gangster bit the curb, I did it twice. It wasn't like an adrenaline rush where you black out, on the contrary, I was very focused and just wanted to punish him. It was such bad trauma to his face that I remember his jaw hanging so far out of place that it almost looked like it was unattached. A guy I was riding with that night ran into the same guy a year or so later and said his face and jaw were still distorted. I kind of regret it now.
Obviously, there is something wrong with the way I react to being threatened. Even I can see it. I just want to know how to fix it before I wind up in prison or getting beaten to death. I guess I'm looking for answers here. And please don't say anger management, cuz that shit is pathetic!
I say don't act due to the rush. Don't use adrenaline. Don't do stuff because your hormones tell you to. It's not pathetic it's wise and it leads you to success. If your brain tells you it's wrong and you will regret it, don't do it. When you feel the rush, stop. Just stop and leave. The only case of taking action is when you have absolutely no alternative.
In that I'm a very nice guy but have uncontrollable anger at times?
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Like punching another person in the face, or getting hit defending someone, or accepting responsibility... You know, the honourable stuff.
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Yes that makes sense. But only where that's the only way. Otherwise, you get into trouble when you can avoid them. In the case of defending her girl, if he can't simply retreat with her somewhere safe and avoid a confrontation, then of course combat is justified and I'd say manly. Otherwise it's wise to stay safe, you don't need to prove anybody anything, just to stay safe. But he seems to overreact where it is not a necessity. It's just that he can't control it. That leads to problems he doesn't need as results of actions that doesn't help him. Sounds different to me and shouldn't be done. You don't really want to get suspended from job/uni/school or get into trouble over minor things that can easily be avoided, like verbaly attacking a police officer when you can simply ignore the potential bullshit and move on.
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Good interpretation of what I meant. So, what do you suggest? I've made a lifetime of avoiding confrontation with fairly good results, but I guess it's the times when I can't back out and can't diffuse the situation that I feel cornered and desperate, and thusly feel as though I need to lash out. And boy, do I lash out. I cringe to admit it but when I made old gangster bit the curb, I did it twice. It wasn't like an adrenaline rush where you black out, on the contrary, I was very focused and just wanted to punish him. It was such bad trauma to his face that I remember his jaw hanging so far out of place that it almost looked like it was unattached. A guy I was riding with that night ran into the same guy a year or so later and said his face and jaw were still distorted. I kind of regret it now.
Obviously, there is something wrong with the way I react to being threatened. Even I can see it. I just want to know how to fix it before I wind up in prison or getting beaten to death. I guess I'm looking for answers here. And please don't say anger management, cuz that shit is pathetic!
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I say don't act due to the rush. Don't use adrenaline. Don't do stuff because your hormones tell you to. It's not pathetic it's wise and it leads you to success. If your brain tells you it's wrong and you will regret it, don't do it. When you feel the rush, stop. Just stop and leave. The only case of taking action is when you have absolutely no alternative.
Does this sound like "the honorable stuff"?
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Yes. Humiliation deserves that.