You need to figure out why you find it so difficult to stay away from the woman.
Both you and she must be getting something you value out of being involved, although it sounds like that something is very negative.
Maybe one or both of you have low self-esteem and being in a crappy relationship validates that? Maybe you're both just too damn lazy to go find someone who can be a more positive force in your lives? Maybe one or both of you is too emotionally immature to know what the hell you want from a relationship and incapable of dealing with all the normal stresses, conflicts and compromises? Maybe she just loves drama, and she knows all the right buttons to push to draw you into yet another episode of the soap-opera that is her life?
If this relationship has failed three times, then it's safe to assume it's never going to work. Accept that, learn what you can from the experience, do whatever you need to convince yourself that you'd be wasting your time if you got back together, and move forward.
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You need to figure out why you find it so difficult to stay away from the woman.
Both you and she must be getting something you value out of being involved, although it sounds like that something is very negative.
Maybe one or both of you have low self-esteem and being in a crappy relationship validates that? Maybe you're both just too damn lazy to go find someone who can be a more positive force in your lives? Maybe one or both of you is too emotionally immature to know what the hell you want from a relationship and incapable of dealing with all the normal stresses, conflicts and compromises? Maybe she just loves drama, and she knows all the right buttons to push to draw you into yet another episode of the soap-opera that is her life?
If this relationship has failed three times, then it's safe to assume it's never going to work. Accept that, learn what you can from the experience, do whatever you need to convince yourself that you'd be wasting your time if you got back together, and move forward.