In desperate need of relationship advice!!

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Okay so I have a boyfriend right now (T) but I still like my ex (J). A while ago during the time I was dating T, I was still texting J saying I liked him but I couldn't date him even though I really wanted to. So a few days ago T and I broke up and my friend convinced me I should ask out J because he still Loved me. I was really nervous trying to do it and my friend got annoyed and texted him saying I was trying to ask him out but couldn't. He texted her back and said that he just recently got a girlfriend and he only likes me as a friend now. I was heart broken and started crying but now I'm thinking maybe he just said he liked me as a friend so his gf wouldn't find out but idk. T and I are back together now but I don't know what to do. Help please!!

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  • ViolentKitty
    6 years ago | pl

    You sound very young and you're clearly immature.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago | pl

    I think you should stay single for a while until you grow up a bit

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  • jimmythecunt
    6 years ago | pl

    Forget (T), forget (J) and find F

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago | pl

    Whenever I see a "T" I automatically think of Mr. T.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago | pl

    Basically, you like J, but he moved on. So to avoid loneliness, you date T instead, even though your feelings for him aren't strong.

    At this rate you're going to break T's heart badly, especially since he foolishly took you back. My advice? Stay single, and give yourself time to get over J before starting a new relationship.

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  • felixy
    6 years ago | pl

    Not good or bad, you're just acting like a girl. All you need to know is that attraction is non-negotiable. Don't lead a guy on if there's no attraction.

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  • peterrabbyt4
    6 years ago | pl

    Do you swallow?

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago | pl

    I think if you're only with T because you're upset about the situation with J, then breakup with T. Not so you can be with J (accept he's in a relationship), but because it's not fair to lead someone on like that. If you really do like T, then try to move on from J and be committed to the relationship you're in now.

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  • jethro
    6 years ago | pl

    You should not date anyone. I don't think you are mature enough to have relationships. You are just messing with the other people because you can't make up your mind.

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  • catru
    6 years ago | pl

    I'm so confused by this. You started off talking about a boyfriend you have right now but a couple of sentences later, you'd broken up with him a few days ago. I think you have to choose a timezone and stick to it.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago | pl

    i love the variety of choices you gave. I don't know, you are a human. My advice would be to not take advice from strangers on the internet, or anyone really when it comes to relationships. This is between you and them. Honesty, trusting your gut, seeing it from their perspective, the obvious stuff. I would try to make their lives better as much as possible, relationships are more like friendships than anything reallly

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