Im so worried about homewreckers

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I have been dating my bf for almost five years now and when we first started dating everything was fine. I never thought about any other girls, or got jelous over anything. Now I cant stop thinking that every girl he meets is a homewrecker. He constantly tells me he loves me soo much and he always tells me that we are in a committed relationship and that I am the one he wants to grow old with, no one else. But I still get really worried that the girls he meets are going to end up being one of those sl*ts that just put out, or hit on anyone. He only works with one girl but the girl is really pretty, and thin, and I cant help get worried that she is hitting on him. Plus, he has never worked somewhere where the manager (the girl) would have his number and text him and all of that. He shows me the texts because they are always about work but I still get nervous that he is deleting and hiding texts from me.

I just feel that I should have no reason to be jelous or nervous about every girl, but I cant stop. Its ridiculous. I really dont know how to get over this and it is going to ruin my relationship. And im not joking when I say every girl.

i used to think it was because I lived with 5 guys in a house while I was in college last year, and I would have to hear what guys really think and say about girls.. and it made me wonder what does my bf say to other guys and think about when some girl comes in with a sl*tty outfit on.

Plus to add to my trust issues, I found an e-mail that he wrote two years ago to his ex girlfriend from when he was like 13 or something saying that he loved her so much and that they made a date to meet. BUT I KNOW FOR A FACT that he is not talking to her or anything now. I am with him everyday and he got rid of his e-mail address, but he still says that those e-mails where from a long time ago and that he never went and met her and he doesnt love her.

Im just acting really weird and it needs to stop. He has suggested therapy but I really dont think that would help. Jeez I sound crazy lol.

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  • ladybeagle
    13 years ago

    Jealousy creates the self-fulfilling prophecy of man-leaving-girl-for-homewrecker-because-girl-is-overly-worried-funwrecker. be confident in yourself and your relationship (faking confidence til you make it actually works - think stuart smalley) makes you so much hotter, and he'd never leave. start to worry, question, constantly ask, and he'll be running to escape faster than you can say, "do you think i'm prettier than her?"

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I'm a guy. I have my own as well as my girlfriends picture in my profile.

    I do often think about cheating as I know I could do better with the looks department than she is but honestly, I don't want to because it would hurt her.

    Not all guys are awful. I'm faithful although my profile storys question it. I have never cheated and I get that feeling out online.

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  • No1isnormal
    14 years ago

    To add to Ollieo's comment (which by the way is a great one)...maybe you have done something that you are placing onto him. Have you lied or done something dishonest in your relationship with him?
    Therapy is a really great idea. Good luck and wishing you the best.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Hard to say whether its only you - maybe - but also maybe your antennae is picking up something. Its plain - whether reasonable or not - that you do not trust HIM around other women. Forget about suspicions of the other women, if you don't trust HIM you will go nuts because there will always be other women around.

    Are you just the jealous type? Maybe you are. Or maybe there is something about this guy's values, background and behaviour that leaves him undeserving of your trust.

    Sorry - I think the idea of counseling is good. I don't see how you could have a relationship where you didn't feel complete trust for the other.

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