Actually, studies have shown that homophobes have a SIGNIFICANTLY higher chance of coming out as gay later in life, meaning that a decent margin of them are just in denial because they can't cope with who they are. Studies have also shown that prejudice people, including homophobes, have a lower IQ than the general population. I'm not saying the the original poster is gay because of his fetishes, this is strictly in regards to identifying as homophobic.
I agree with you, but I think they might come out as gay not because they are intrinsically gay but rather because it's more appealing to them as it is extremely taboo, so they might engage in that behavior. I agree with the IQ thing and I know that any form of discrimination is a proof of low IQ as a matter of fact. Usually, real gay people can never be homophobic because their feelings and emotions are so high, it's impossible to not love those feelings. They might stay in the closet with fear of society's reactions, but manifesting hate towards other gay people is not relevant in my opinion. I see them more as closeted.
I learned about that in my psychology class. The generally accepted thought process is that their homosexuallity is the object of their internal hatred (on some level, not necessarily consciously), and they project their inner hatred onto others who show the same perceived flaw as a way of coping. At least that's my understanding of it, I'm not a psych major. Here's a link about it if you're interested in reading about it.
I'd like to hear more of your opinions on the subject though, you're one of the very few people that are actually willing to form their own opinion on the subject, it's refreshing.
Right, that makes lots of sense actually. Or they might get jealous that some gay people are freely living out of the closet and they can't, that's actually quite relevant. I don't know if you've seen the movie American Beauty, but there is a scene with a man who's a veteran and is very patriotic but also very homophobic. And at the end of the movie, it turns out he seems to have some sort of same-sex attraction for Kevin Spacey and actually goes for it, but Kevin rejects him and then things get out of hand. I am still trying to figure out whether that guy was an actual GAY man, or if he was just some sort of deviant guy (not that homosexuality is deviant, I'll explain) and that he was just trying to explore and break his bubble a little. In many narcissistic and psychopathic personalities, there is usually a lot of bisexuality or homosexuality, also paraphilia sometimes. Of course this is an insult to bisexuals and gays, but usually narcissistic people want to control everything and please everyone, they also want to engage in pretty much everything that exists, especially if it's sexual because for them, sex is just sex, a hole is a hole, it doesn't matter who it is or even WHAT it is as long as they obtain their sexual supply. That doesn't mean that, like most gay and hetero people, they will want to actually spend a life with another person and cherish them, it's purely sexual in their case. That's why I believe it's important to me to distinguish the both, because an actual gay man is sexually and EMOTIONALLY attracted to other men, not just sexually.
I hadn't even considered the possibility of them being jealous of openly gay people, that makes a lot of sense too. I think the distinction between strictly sexual gay people and sexual/emotional gay people is important in the cases of people with personality disorders but not as relevant to the general population. I think that the only reason someone would think that they can only fall in love with someone of one sex is purely the result of socialization. The main difference between men and women is just genitals which seems to me just a matter of taste, like preferring blond over brunette. And just like our taste in who is attractive has changed drastically over the centuries, so has our opinion that only the other gender is attractive. Just like cannibalism, we think it's disgusting in the western world but in other societies they eat their dead relatives instead of burying them so that the relatives, in a way, become a part of them. It's just society creating our opinions so that we don't have to. Sorry, kind of a rambling reply but still relevant I think
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Actually, studies have shown that homophobes have a SIGNIFICANTLY higher chance of coming out as gay later in life, meaning that a decent margin of them are just in denial because they can't cope with who they are. Studies have also shown that prejudice people, including homophobes, have a lower IQ than the general population. I'm not saying the the original poster is gay because of his fetishes, this is strictly in regards to identifying as homophobic.
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I agree with you, but I think they might come out as gay not because they are intrinsically gay but rather because it's more appealing to them as it is extremely taboo, so they might engage in that behavior. I agree with the IQ thing and I know that any form of discrimination is a proof of low IQ as a matter of fact. Usually, real gay people can never be homophobic because their feelings and emotions are so high, it's impossible to not love those feelings. They might stay in the closet with fear of society's reactions, but manifesting hate towards other gay people is not relevant in my opinion. I see them more as closeted.
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I learned about that in my psychology class. The generally accepted thought process is that their homosexuallity is the object of their internal hatred (on some level, not necessarily consciously), and they project their inner hatred onto others who show the same perceived flaw as a way of coping. At least that's my understanding of it, I'm not a psych major. Here's a link about it if you're interested in reading about it.
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/homophobia-may-reveal-denial-of-own-same-sex-attraction-study-suggests/
I'd like to hear more of your opinions on the subject though, you're one of the very few people that are actually willing to form their own opinion on the subject, it's refreshing.
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Right, that makes lots of sense actually. Or they might get jealous that some gay people are freely living out of the closet and they can't, that's actually quite relevant. I don't know if you've seen the movie American Beauty, but there is a scene with a man who's a veteran and is very patriotic but also very homophobic. And at the end of the movie, it turns out he seems to have some sort of same-sex attraction for Kevin Spacey and actually goes for it, but Kevin rejects him and then things get out of hand. I am still trying to figure out whether that guy was an actual GAY man, or if he was just some sort of deviant guy (not that homosexuality is deviant, I'll explain) and that he was just trying to explore and break his bubble a little. In many narcissistic and psychopathic personalities, there is usually a lot of bisexuality or homosexuality, also paraphilia sometimes. Of course this is an insult to bisexuals and gays, but usually narcissistic people want to control everything and please everyone, they also want to engage in pretty much everything that exists, especially if it's sexual because for them, sex is just sex, a hole is a hole, it doesn't matter who it is or even WHAT it is as long as they obtain their sexual supply. That doesn't mean that, like most gay and hetero people, they will want to actually spend a life with another person and cherish them, it's purely sexual in their case. That's why I believe it's important to me to distinguish the both, because an actual gay man is sexually and EMOTIONALLY attracted to other men, not just sexually.
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I hadn't even considered the possibility of them being jealous of openly gay people, that makes a lot of sense too. I think the distinction between strictly sexual gay people and sexual/emotional gay people is important in the cases of people with personality disorders but not as relevant to the general population. I think that the only reason someone would think that they can only fall in love with someone of one sex is purely the result of socialization. The main difference between men and women is just genitals which seems to me just a matter of taste, like preferring blond over brunette. And just like our taste in who is attractive has changed drastically over the centuries, so has our opinion that only the other gender is attractive. Just like cannibalism, we think it's disgusting in the western world but in other societies they eat their dead relatives instead of burying them so that the relatives, in a way, become a part of them. It's just society creating our opinions so that we don't have to. Sorry, kind of a rambling reply but still relevant I think