Im afraid to give him a bj. any advice

He really wants me to give a bj, but I am worried that I will be horrible at it.

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  • Ellenna

    I reckon you should tell him you've never done it before and that you're a bit nervous about it. If you don't want to swallow his cum make sure he understands that in advance.

    If he's not respectful of you about this, don't even think about it. Don't do anything you don't want to do and remember he'll probably be delighted which whatever you do.

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    • JonathanOo

      I agree

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    • rayb12

      I mean maybe i think there would be hotter ways to go about it

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  • Kailey18

    Try it when you're ready. He won't complain. Be confident.

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    • JonathanOo

      I wouldn't unless he does something better for you first. Make sure he is worth it because I find them demeaning if they are asked for

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  • Cookiecutter

    The internet is your friend use a private tab and research or if you want tell him its your first time. Most guys dont care as long as you put it in your mouth to them its wonderful. Just remember dont try and force it and then accidentally throw up because you have gag reflex. Use a banana for practice.

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  • Emil96

    Just give him a bj if you want to, and tell him you don't know how to do it. If he cares about you he will listen and he will understand if you don't want or if you are scared and let you take your time.

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    • JonathanOo

      I agree. If its asked for it can be demeaning. I hope he will do much better for you first

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  • yesnomaybeso

    Don't do it until you are ready x

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  • aeondolphin

    You can look up porn, but look it up on a user submitted site where actual couples are playing. If you are new to it, don't worry. I've never met a guy who doesn't at least appreciate the trying. Just start slow and have him guide you. Let him know your worries, ask what he likes, then just experiment, you'll learn together.

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  • cidermaker

    just go for it careful with teeth

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  • Nevermeh31

    Jus look at porn and copy what they do

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    • Cuntsiclestick

      Not the best advice. Porn is nice to watch, but Porn is acting. I've known people who held their partners to porn standards/tried to mimic a porn exactly and they wound up calling me at like 4am all teary eyed wondering:
      -why they can't take a huge dick in their ass for the first time without lube or prepwork like a pornstar
      -why their girlfriend does not like cum in her eyes like the pornstars
      -why her boyfriend's dick look nothing like the one in the porn
      -why they can't shoot as much like a pornstar
      -why they can't last as long as a pornstar

      Anyway, to the Op, just let him know you're nervous and practice it with him. He'll probably be happy that you're practicing with him.
      :)

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      • Ellenna

        Great response and I totally agree. Other unrealistic ideas would give rise to issues such as people trying to hold themselves as well as their partners to porn standards in appearance and performance; women expected to "squirt" every time they have sex; women loving to be brutalised and degraded; all women loving anal sex.

        This is a very immature dynamic: small kids may think they can learn to fly after watching superman or cartoons but it puzzles me that we so called grownups are so easily fooled by porn into thinking that if we're not perfect sex machines we're failures.

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      • JonathanOo

        I agree. Don't watch that garbage or pretend it's for you too

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    • Kailey18

      The stuff on porn is a little too rough for me lol. I'll pass on that advice

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      • Ellenna

        That's VERY sensible of you: porn is ACTING, it's not reality, although it fools a lot of people not as smart as you are

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      • JonathanOo

        I agree. Let's keep it sensual and loving. Not brutal and demeaning

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    • DanielBlizzard

      I have a question too. Plz check it guys n help me.

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    • Amandaqaws12

      same

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  • DanielBlizzard

    Practice with ur brother.

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  • Bestmate

    Nutcracker old bean, would you refrain from your profanities and rudeness. The board is concerned for your welfare and indeed,sanity. You seem to be obsessed with graphic naughtiness and we think you want only to be noticed. Not for one moment do we think that you could personally perform the sexual acrobatics you allude to, but we do recognise it is a cry for help. It cannot be easy being a sexual deviant. We wish you well but do hope that what is in your gift to bestow, that is, the alleviation of our profound boredom with you, you deem it appropriate to give.

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  • Fitgee

    Just suck it !!!

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  • Ultimatebro

    Just suck him. It doesn't matter how well you do at it, he will like it anyway you do it.

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  • Ladaddyo65

    My boyfriend is black Asian and hubh..enjoy it.

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  • DuchessK

    You had a lot of comments xD Are you okay? did they help? well, I just want to remind you that every first time is never easy because you don't know what to do and how to properly react, but you are doing this for HIM. He appreciates that and I am sure you will do fine.

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  • winedino

    my old fiancee told me it was disgusting and didn't want to, i found out it was because she didn't know how to. I first thought it was me, but all my other gf's loved it on me. You're doing good as long as you don't use teeth lol. Just go on instructional vids for it and as long as you try and like him, you'll do great!

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  • rayb12

    There's actually a great Ashley Elizabeth yunging 19 video on this

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  • rayb12

    Change ur attitude 180° and you will be perfect

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  • Pantiesfeelgood17

    Spit on it just go up and down usually little bit of pressure releases go to the head and roll ur fingers over it one a spit... it's hot

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    • Ellenna

      Not everyone likes being spat on: don't assume that what you find hot is hot for everyone else

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      • Amandaqaws12

        egg-actly

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  • Diego35LovesHilda29

    Try it once and see if you like it. He won't be disappointed.

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  • 12345666789

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  • JizzellJ

    Watch lots of porn.

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  • NUTCRACKER

    Don't bite the nut sack AKA Ball Bag { Kahuna's } .

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  • Bestmate

    Nutcracker old bean, would you refrain from your profanities and rudeness. The board is concerned for your welfare and indeed,sanity. You seem to be obsessed with graphic naughtiness and we think you want only to be noticed. Not for one moment do we think that you could personally perform the sexual acrobatics you allude to, but we do recognise it is a cry for help. It cannot be easy being a sexual deviant. We wish you well but do hope that what is in your gift to bestow, that is, the alleviation of our profound boredom with you, you deem it appropriate to give.

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