Im afraid to give him a bj. any advice
He really wants me to give a bj, but I am worried that I will be horrible at it.
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He really wants me to give a bj, but I am worried that I will be horrible at it.
I reckon you should tell him you've never done it before and that you're a bit nervous about it. If you don't want to swallow his cum make sure he understands that in advance.
If he's not respectful of you about this, don't even think about it. Don't do anything you don't want to do and remember he'll probably be delighted which whatever you do.
The internet is your friend use a private tab and research or if you want tell him its your first time. Most guys dont care as long as you put it in your mouth to them its wonderful. Just remember dont try and force it and then accidentally throw up because you have gag reflex. Use a banana for practice.
Just give him a bj if you want to, and tell him you don't know how to do it. If he cares about you he will listen and he will understand if you don't want or if you are scared and let you take your time.
You can look up porn, but look it up on a user submitted site where actual couples are playing. If you are new to it, don't worry. I've never met a guy who doesn't at least appreciate the trying. Just start slow and have him guide you. Let him know your worries, ask what he likes, then just experiment, you'll learn together.
Not the best advice. Porn is nice to watch, but Porn is acting. I've known people who held their partners to porn standards/tried to mimic a porn exactly and they wound up calling me at like 4am all teary eyed wondering:
-why they can't take a huge dick in their ass for the first time without lube or prepwork like a pornstar
-why their girlfriend does not like cum in her eyes like the pornstars
-why her boyfriend's dick look nothing like the one in the porn
-why they can't shoot as much like a pornstar
-why they can't last as long as a pornstar
Anyway, to the Op, just let him know you're nervous and practice it with him. He'll probably be happy that you're practicing with him.
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Great response and I totally agree. Other unrealistic ideas would give rise to issues such as people trying to hold themselves as well as their partners to porn standards in appearance and performance; women expected to "squirt" every time they have sex; women loving to be brutalised and degraded; all women loving anal sex.
This is a very immature dynamic: small kids may think they can learn to fly after watching superman or cartoons but it puzzles me that we so called grownups are so easily fooled by porn into thinking that if we're not perfect sex machines we're failures.
The stuff on porn is a little too rough for me lol. I'll pass on that advice
Nutcracker old bean, would you refrain from your profanities and rudeness. The board is concerned for your welfare and indeed,sanity. You seem to be obsessed with graphic naughtiness and we think you want only to be noticed. Not for one moment do we think that you could personally perform the sexual acrobatics you allude to, but we do recognise it is a cry for help. It cannot be easy being a sexual deviant. We wish you well but do hope that what is in your gift to bestow, that is, the alleviation of our profound boredom with you, you deem it appropriate to give.
Just suck him. It doesn't matter how well you do at it, he will like it anyway you do it.
You had a lot of comments xD Are you okay? did they help? well, I just want to remind you that every first time is never easy because you don't know what to do and how to properly react, but you are doing this for HIM. He appreciates that and I am sure you will do fine.
my old fiancee told me it was disgusting and didn't want to, i found out it was because she didn't know how to. I first thought it was me, but all my other gf's loved it on me. You're doing good as long as you don't use teeth lol. Just go on instructional vids for it and as long as you try and like him, you'll do great!
Spit on it just go up and down usually little bit of pressure releases go to the head and roll ur fingers over it one a spit... it's hot
Nutcracker old bean, would you refrain from your profanities and rudeness. The board is concerned for your welfare and indeed,sanity. You seem to be obsessed with graphic naughtiness and we think you want only to be noticed. Not for one moment do we think that you could personally perform the sexual acrobatics you allude to, but we do recognise it is a cry for help. It cannot be easy being a sexual deviant. We wish you well but do hope that what is in your gift to bestow, that is, the alleviation of our profound boredom with you, you deem it appropriate to give.