Im 'addicted' to my girlfriend?

okay, this ones a little lengthy but, hear me out. Ive been dating my gf for three months and she is so, amazing. The last two people ive dated (lets just call them A and G) were cool for a while but the break-ups/final interactions tore me apart. it wasn't your generic "lets be just friends" or "I don't wanna see you anymore" it was different. G said he loved me but cheated on me and just slowly pushed me away. he wouldn't talk to me, making me think something was wrong with me, causing me to start self harming. I broke up with A and she make me feel like shit. like the scum of the earth. back to the original thing. I love my gf. she makes me so happy. I see her every weekend and sometimes on the weekday. when I don't I feel so empty and emotionless, like I cant be without her or I feel meaningless. shes the only person whos actually CARED about me, idk how to explain it but hopefully you get the jist

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  • What you are describing is not love, but obsession, and it's quite unhealthy. I think you ought to take a break from dating entirely, and perhaps seek out professional help. If you feel incomplete when you are not in a relationship then that's not normal, or healthy.

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    • Dude why you gotta be like this.

      So bitter :(

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      • It's no about being bitter, but about being real, oh tuberous one. It's not healthy for a person to feel like he, or she ain't nuthin without a partner.

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  • Don't put all your eggs in one basket. It sounds like you do that with your relationships too soon.

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  • We all get like that but a flame that is twice as bright burns twice as fast. Temper the flames a bit and see where it gets you.

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  • I am old. We grew up on crushes that lasted through the whole summer during the 90's. It took me from being 14 to being 19 for me to know if I was into just guys, or chicks too. I cant immagingine how twisted you kids must be after seeing porn at such a young age. I am not that much older thatn y'all.

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  • That "madly in love" phase doesn't last for ever and just as well in my opinion, although it's certainly fun while it lasts.

    If this is real love it will grow into something not as intoxicating and addictive but much more lasting.

    You do need to realise that no one person can fulfil all your needs: if your life is meaningless and empty without her you need to maintain contact with other important people and activities in your life. Otherwise you run the risk of being too needy and dependent and that's not healthy in any relationship.

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  • Nup, two people obsessed with each other to the point of addiction isn't healthy either and it sounds as if these feelings have in fact taken over OP's life

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  • Perfectly fine, I was very "addicted" to my ex girl friend in our first years, and she was the same way about me. But then we started to drift apart and sadly we broke now. But I do miss her a lot....

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  • Enjoy it dude.

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  • aslong as she portrays that same feels then it isnt too bad i guess but make sure it doesnt take over ya life

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