Though I've never personally been infatuated with a blood relative (or any relative at all, actually...) I know other people who have. I also know from my psych degree that this is more common than most people think. Not just the lesbian part - that part is perfectly normal in my opinion - but the infatuation with a relative part.
I have read that these type of sexual infatuations are often the result of confusion. If you never had a very close relationship with a woman before, but have had with a man, than it might just feel normal to think there's a sexual undertone to it because there might have been in a close relationship in the past. So you equate the closeness with the sexuality...
Another theory I read was about how sexual contact can create an almost artificial sense of closeness with another person. You mentioned that you hug and touch her, but she doesn't hug or touch you. Might it be possible that you want that physical contact, because you care deeply for her, and so you think of sexual contact because it gratifies a need for physical and emotional closeness with another person?
But I'm not sure I believe or disbelieve either of these hypotheses. Just food for thought.
I think you should do some serious self-reflection, think about the potential repercussions of your actions on everyone, and ultimately make a decision you can live with. Regardless of what that decision is, you have to know that it's one you will live with for the rest of you life. So once it's made, stick to it and remind yourself that, should you ever regret it, you did what you thought was the right thing to do at the time. That's all anyone can ask of themselves or others.
As for the lesbian part, perfectly normal. Don't sweat it.
IINT that i am attracted to a woman,being a woman myself??
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Though I've never personally been infatuated with a blood relative (or any relative at all, actually...) I know other people who have. I also know from my psych degree that this is more common than most people think. Not just the lesbian part - that part is perfectly normal in my opinion - but the infatuation with a relative part.
I have read that these type of sexual infatuations are often the result of confusion. If you never had a very close relationship with a woman before, but have had with a man, than it might just feel normal to think there's a sexual undertone to it because there might have been in a close relationship in the past. So you equate the closeness with the sexuality...
Another theory I read was about how sexual contact can create an almost artificial sense of closeness with another person. You mentioned that you hug and touch her, but she doesn't hug or touch you. Might it be possible that you want that physical contact, because you care deeply for her, and so you think of sexual contact because it gratifies a need for physical and emotional closeness with another person?
But I'm not sure I believe or disbelieve either of these hypotheses. Just food for thought.
I think you should do some serious self-reflection, think about the potential repercussions of your actions on everyone, and ultimately make a decision you can live with. Regardless of what that decision is, you have to know that it's one you will live with for the rest of you life. So once it's made, stick to it and remind yourself that, should you ever regret it, you did what you thought was the right thing to do at the time. That's all anyone can ask of themselves or others.
As for the lesbian part, perfectly normal. Don't sweat it.