Take a cold shower. Women, more than men, can get pretty touchy feely without anything sexual going on. I'm sorry if that seems a stereotype, but it is often (not always) true.
My point is she has no reason to believe that anything sexual is going on, whereas you are having lesbian feelings.
Here's why I say take the shower: there is nothing wrong with your lesbian feelings, but come to terms with them yourself, not blindly through an infatuation with a relative.
You have a lot to think about, your husband, family, and repercussions should you approach and are spurned by this female relative.
I don't know what else to suggest but: accept your feelings and behave like an adult about it, not an infatuated school girl crushing on someone.
If you do approach your relative, perhaps start off with the subject of lesbian behaviour generally and gently; & slowly get a sense of her feelings and acceptance of the subject matter. If you feel safe, you could talk about your feelings generally (not about her). Yo get the picture.
But watch what you wish for. Even if she is interested in you, think long and hard beforehand about what relationship you could have and its implications. Look very, very hard before you leap, should you choose to, into this.
IINT that i am attracted to a woman,being a woman myself??
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Take a cold shower. Women, more than men, can get pretty touchy feely without anything sexual going on. I'm sorry if that seems a stereotype, but it is often (not always) true.
My point is she has no reason to believe that anything sexual is going on, whereas you are having lesbian feelings.
Here's why I say take the shower: there is nothing wrong with your lesbian feelings, but come to terms with them yourself, not blindly through an infatuation with a relative.
You have a lot to think about, your husband, family, and repercussions should you approach and are spurned by this female relative.
I don't know what else to suggest but: accept your feelings and behave like an adult about it, not an infatuated school girl crushing on someone.
If you do approach your relative, perhaps start off with the subject of lesbian behaviour generally and gently; & slowly get a sense of her feelings and acceptance of the subject matter. If you feel safe, you could talk about your feelings generally (not about her). Yo get the picture.
But watch what you wish for. Even if she is interested in you, think long and hard beforehand about what relationship you could have and its implications. Look very, very hard before you leap, should you choose to, into this.