Its natural human instinct to want to cuddle a loved one at night. We humans are a species that craves affection and intimacy, so for your boyfriend to not feel this way means he probably hasn't been given much affection throughout his life. This whole sleeping next to someone is probably such a foreign concept to him that he feels uncomfortable and awkward.
Also judging by what you mentioned about the abuse he has gone through, I'd say he would probably have some trust issues too. Sleeping is when one is most vulnerable so naturally we find it difficult to sleep next to someone we don't trust. Its just basic human instinct.
My advice to you is to just keep working on it. Start small, like napping next to each other on the couch or even just snuggling for an extended period of time. Eventually he'll feel more comfortable with the intimacy and begin to crave it. As for the trust issue, maybe its an issue or maybe it has nothing to do with the sleeping problem, thats just something you'll have to find out for yourself.
Anyways I hope this helps and I hope you and your boyfriend solve this soon. Believe me, being able to fall asleep in the arms of the one you love is one of the best parts of being in a relationship so I hope you can experience this soon. Good luck dear.
So Saturday was a surprise. We were watching TV having a good time, then he asked me to do his hair, then he fell asleep in my lap. Oh the joy! And pain that grew in my leg. I also met his family that night too. They were alright. But last night I tries to get some sex and got turned down. Then after I pretend to sleep he goes in the shower, smoking a CIG , who knows. I hate that he is under my skin. This is making me physcotic. I'm a looker and never had a guy turn me down for sex! But the weekend was nice
IIN we don't sleep in the same bed
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Its natural human instinct to want to cuddle a loved one at night. We humans are a species that craves affection and intimacy, so for your boyfriend to not feel this way means he probably hasn't been given much affection throughout his life. This whole sleeping next to someone is probably such a foreign concept to him that he feels uncomfortable and awkward.
Also judging by what you mentioned about the abuse he has gone through, I'd say he would probably have some trust issues too. Sleeping is when one is most vulnerable so naturally we find it difficult to sleep next to someone we don't trust. Its just basic human instinct.
My advice to you is to just keep working on it. Start small, like napping next to each other on the couch or even just snuggling for an extended period of time. Eventually he'll feel more comfortable with the intimacy and begin to crave it. As for the trust issue, maybe its an issue or maybe it has nothing to do with the sleeping problem, thats just something you'll have to find out for yourself.
Anyways I hope this helps and I hope you and your boyfriend solve this soon. Believe me, being able to fall asleep in the arms of the one you love is one of the best parts of being in a relationship so I hope you can experience this soon. Good luck dear.
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So Saturday was a surprise. We were watching TV having a good time, then he asked me to do his hair, then he fell asleep in my lap. Oh the joy! And pain that grew in my leg. I also met his family that night too. They were alright. But last night I tries to get some sex and got turned down. Then after I pretend to sleep he goes in the shower, smoking a CIG , who knows. I hate that he is under my skin. This is making me physcotic. I'm a looker and never had a guy turn me down for sex! But the weekend was nice
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Well at least he is opening up to you where it counts.
As for the sex, has this happened before with him?
If not, than its probably nothing.