Is it normal wanting my friends to be together?

Here's the story: two of my friends have an ongoing friends with benefits situation which they seem in denial about.

They are both female and one of them (friend A) is clearly in love, while the other (friend B) keeps getting into relationships with guys, which never work out.
Either the guy finds out about their special friendship (my two friends can't stay away from each other and usually end up shagging). Or friend B falls out of love with the guy, sabotaging the relationship then getting into a depression (which leads to A consoling her, if you know what I mean).

Those two ladies are meant for each other, they have so much in common, all of their friends know about what they do even if they think it's a secret, however, friend B keeps playing straight and friend A does not confront the other afraid to lose her for good.

I try to help friend A, encouraging her to open up to friend B, but they keep this crazy friends façade, it's been going on for over a decade.

Even if it does not work out they can't stop seeing each other because they are involved in the same project (one more thing in common) and it's very successful.

Should I sit with them and make them talk about it or stay out of their business? It bothers me since they are clearly in pain, specially friend B, who does not even hook up with anyone else, so involved that she is emotionally (without verbalising it, but she told me she loves friend A once when drunk).

Thanks for reading, sorry if it's confusing.

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  • Tealights

    When friend B complains about her relationships, just say remarks like, "Ugh this again? Why can't you just admit you love Friend-A and be happy?"

    Don't tell her that Friend-A loves her. It's not your place to share that. Just see why Friend-B doesn't want to try anything serious with Friend-A since they're always together.

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    • Thanks for the suggestion. I'll do that.

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  • Boojum

    This is such a classic story of how self-deluding people can be. So much so, that it reads like the summary of a novel or movie.

    Unfortunately, we can't write happy endings for our friends, no matter how much we care about them.

    The root of the problem appears to be Friend B, who is simply unable to admit the true nature of her sexuality. You can't make her do this; she has to accept it in her own time. I suppose you could try to gently lead her to think more about her deepest feelings about lesbianism and romantic relationships in general, but you'd need to be very careful.

    You also have to accept Friend A's judgement that her being open about her feelings for B would only make things worse.

    I think all you can do is be there for both of them, be willing to listen to what they each say, and try to not put yourself in the middle.

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    • Thank you for the advice. I'm going to keep supporting them but sometimes I think friend B is leading friend A on.

      It DOES seem like a movie storyline. Crossing my fingers for a happy ending...

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  • rayb12

    Cheating is disgusting and a way bigger deal than anything else you talk about

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    • Yeah. But they are both single now.

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  • RecIuded

    Fuck you idiot.

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    • What the hell?

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    • Just go away and leave people alone! It's none of your business what people choose to make themselves happy!

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      • Is this reply for me?

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        • No, not at all. It was in response to the comment "fuck you idiot!" That guy always responds the same way to anyone that even mentions same gender sex. It was meant for him. Sorry I wasn't clear!

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    • 2009ispronouncedtwentyohNineKok

      @Recluded Why are you being so rude?

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