My son got in trouble at school and blamed it on his evil twin. No kidding. He was trying to plug a paper clip into an outlet and said it wasn't him but his evil twin. It was one of those times as a parent when you had to not laugh even though it was hilarious and you're just sitting there like 'ok, what do I even do here, my son is not fit to live in society apparently...'
Jesus Christ, Wigz, seriously? That's fucked. Has he gotten like a therapist or something? Maybe try multiple ones to be extra sure the issue can't be addressed? :/
He is almost 21 now...this happened when he was around 10. Yeah, we tried counselling to no avail. He was diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) as a child, he actually showed signs of it at an extremely young age, younger than what's typical or able to be diagnosed. As an infant even he was able to somehow take in a situation and manipulate it as he wanted. He ended up in foster care as a teen because nobody could handle him and he got expelled from every school in our area. It was insane. He 'grew out if it' in some ways as he approached adulthood but not others, he has calmed down quite a bit but as an adult he is now a professional bum/traveller/hobo. He is very against having a job or a home and posessions. I really do not understand all this because I have 2 younger daughters who are wonderfully behaved and very normal.
I'm glad he's calmed down quite a bit. I don't know if he's going to have a normal future but that's not your fault and sometimes, as I'm sure you know, people are afflicted with disorders that can't be taken away.
I'm glad your daughters don't have similar issues and show you that the unfortunate ways your son is isn't a reflection of your parenting.
Yes, I talk to him regularly. He visited me recently too. I wish I understood him better, I kinda get where he is coming from but I don't get why he is so extreme. He seems content for the most part but sometimes he tells me he wants to kill himself or wishes he'd just die. That's hard to hear. I don't know where that intense pain comes from and I don't know how to help him in that way.
I don't know that he will ever have a normal future since he rejects basically all the ideas of society. I mean, if he's happy as a traveller then that's ok, he is very smart though and could do better he just rejects the idea of having a job so hard. He constantly makes things harder for himself just to spite the 'system'. I get it, I do that myself sometimes when it's worth it but he doesn't seem to have that gauge that tells him when to quit.
IIN to wonder what the users here look like?
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My son got in trouble at school and blamed it on his evil twin. No kidding. He was trying to plug a paper clip into an outlet and said it wasn't him but his evil twin. It was one of those times as a parent when you had to not laugh even though it was hilarious and you're just sitting there like 'ok, what do I even do here, my son is not fit to live in society apparently...'
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Jesus Christ, Wigz, seriously? That's fucked. Has he gotten like a therapist or something? Maybe try multiple ones to be extra sure the issue can't be addressed? :/
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He is almost 21 now...this happened when he was around 10. Yeah, we tried counselling to no avail. He was diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) as a child, he actually showed signs of it at an extremely young age, younger than what's typical or able to be diagnosed. As an infant even he was able to somehow take in a situation and manipulate it as he wanted. He ended up in foster care as a teen because nobody could handle him and he got expelled from every school in our area. It was insane. He 'grew out if it' in some ways as he approached adulthood but not others, he has calmed down quite a bit but as an adult he is now a professional bum/traveller/hobo. He is very against having a job or a home and posessions. I really do not understand all this because I have 2 younger daughters who are wonderfully behaved and very normal.
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I'm glad he's calmed down quite a bit. I don't know if he's going to have a normal future but that's not your fault and sometimes, as I'm sure you know, people are afflicted with disorders that can't be taken away.
I'm glad your daughters don't have similar issues and show you that the unfortunate ways your son is isn't a reflection of your parenting.
Are you still in contact with him?
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Yes, I talk to him regularly. He visited me recently too. I wish I understood him better, I kinda get where he is coming from but I don't get why he is so extreme. He seems content for the most part but sometimes he tells me he wants to kill himself or wishes he'd just die. That's hard to hear. I don't know where that intense pain comes from and I don't know how to help him in that way.
I don't know that he will ever have a normal future since he rejects basically all the ideas of society. I mean, if he's happy as a traveller then that's ok, he is very smart though and could do better he just rejects the idea of having a job so hard. He constantly makes things harder for himself just to spite the 'system'. I get it, I do that myself sometimes when it's worth it but he doesn't seem to have that gauge that tells him when to quit.
Some people just Walk to the beat of a really weird drum.
That story made me kind of think of my great uncle on my dad's side
He pretty much mooched off of my great grandmother who suffered from dementia for decades, has his money and a lot of her money and house.
But he would get a kick out of looking like a hobo and bumming money off of people, or getting a free meal at a homeless shelter