Is it normal to wonder about the state of decomposition of a dead loved one?

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I keep thinking about my brother who died 2 years ago and who requested regular burial. When we found him 2 days after his death, he was pretty putrid and the paramedics had to scoop/scrape him off his floor like a dead mouse. The mortician put his remains in something like a giant Zip Lock bag (which the mortician called a "Freedom Wrap") to keep the stench down during funeral services. So, his soupy remains were put in the ground approximately 2 years ago and all we have left of him are our memories and pictures of how he was in life. Makes you wonder about the point of it all and the lie of all we see and do in life...we are all going to end up like that.. I want to be cremated, but,we are still going to suffer indignities. is it normal to think about my brother as he is right now in the ground; just putrid moosh?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm just going to say this, you're brother is not going to be mooshy now, he will be skeletal.

    But you shouldn't think about those things, you should focus on your good memories and that he is at peace now.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I think you're obsessing over this too much. It's not healthy to do that.

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  • rawr123451
    12 years ago | pl

    I have 2 say it's really part of the grieving process Wich some people experience it differently. I have wonderd The same thing. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that, it helps u heal, it may be a saddening thought but it's a sane one.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm not angry with you, devilla. You didn't have to remove your post.

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  • Cookieboy
    12 years ago | pl

    People do odd things when a loved one dies.

    I find it strange that he decomposed so fast however, normally that stage of decomposition occurs later than 2 days.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago | pl

      Could depend on where they live/lived, a warmer climate and if it was in summer would have contributed to faster decomposition.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    i know you're not you delleted yours and mine was attached. with a feeling of pique i got rid of the lot. had a dream and now i feel strange about death and yr subject matter. ps shame about yr brother, all the best

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago | pl

      "pique"... Wowza.. I am impressed.

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