Is it normal to wear a vibrator in public?

So I have this vibrator that straps on like a pair of undies that my bf like me to wear when we go out in public together... It has a bluetooth remote control so if were out in public and I do something he doesnt like, he will turn it on to the low setting and then make me continue our activity. While I do enjoy the vibrator itself I do not enjoy that he turns it on whenever he feels like it. I have told him to stop many times but he says that its for the best... what should I do?

Is It Normal?
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  • If you don't like it why do you wear it? Don't let anybody else tell you what to do.

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  • burn those undies and find a new man!

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  • Are you into Dominance and submission? This sounds like a D/s relationship. If this is making you uncomfortable and he wont listen, you may want to rethink your relationship. A Dom who doesn't want to respect his sub's limits and concerns, isn't a good Dom.

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    • Yes i am and is it wrong of me to ask him to not do it while im driving?

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      • No it's not, that sounds dangerous!

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      • There's something else that I am curious about. Are you two in an TPE (Total Power Exchange) Relationship?

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        • No?
          I mean there are certain things he does to me that i have no control over (ie: when and howlong i wear the vibrator) but i dont think its TPE...

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      • No, it isn't. He isn't being a good Dominant! He is endangering your life, his life, and anyone else's life if you end up in an automobile accident from his vibrator shenanigans.

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      • Do you really not already know the answer to this question? Sounds like a d/s relationship with either very poor communication or someone who doesn't respect you.

        I'd be getting out if I were you, there are plenty of people around who know how to play these games and keep it always consensual.

        Other than that, it's actually one of my favourite fantasies, but have never actually done it and certainly wouldn't want anything to happen I didn't consent to.

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        • There's something else that has to be considered and that is whether or not they are in an TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship. If they are, it makes modifying and/or, ending the relationship much more difficult.

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          • Anything labelled "Total" sounds far to rigid to me, in fact totalitarian,for exactly those reasons. Can't see much difference in principle between that concept and the "til death us do part" stuff in traditional marriage vows because there's no allowance for people growing and changing, which to me is death to any relationship.

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  • Yah make him wear an extra large vibrating butt plug .

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  • Im not sure how normal this kind of sex game is. I personally havent done this.
    if you dont like it dont wear the underwear ...pretty simple solution.

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  • Is your boyfriend Christian Grey?

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  • I think you should crawl back under the bridge from which you came.

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  • I have worn a bullet vibrator in my ass in public, shopping at Walmart. I had the controller in my pocket and was adjusting the speed up and down as a was standing between two young women in the checkout line. They were looking around trying to find the source of the noise.

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  • Holy shit. I didn't think any one else did that. Haha. Just tell him he is too trigger happy and to chill out. Maybe give u some warning. Idk... That kind of takes the fun out of it though. And sexual stimulation while driving can be really exciting in the right circumstances. It's not for everyone though, u gotta be really good at multi tasking.

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  • Fuck this guy, don't let a man control you like that. I don't hate of you love him, throw him out. Sounds like an unhealthy relationship. Other than that the vibrator Sounds normal.

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  • Subs make the best Doms. Have him wear it and show him how it's done.

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  • No

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  • Make him to wear chastisty belt in public.

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  • I wear a buttplug in public.

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  • Isn't that what those remote control ones are actually made for?

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    • Don't you get it, the issue is CONSENT and if she says she doesn't want to do it to her in certain circumstances, he should be respecting that

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      • No, I don't get it. Sorry.

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        • You don't get the concept that sexual activity should be with the consent of all parties? What's so hard about that? I pity anyone who gets involved with you

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