Is it normal to want to smash my wifes head against the wall when shes screamin

when my wife and i of 1o years start to have a fight she always looks for ways to insult me so much that i almost lose control and grab her head and smash it into the wall. we do love each other i guess and have 2 beautiful children but i cant tolerate the screaming. i know you all will say that i should sit down and talk to her. i have and she hasnt changed. when im really mad i actually visualize in my head smashing her head into the wall. what should i do?

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  • Well someone is immature. Yelling brings nothing but bad feelings. She needs to calm the fuck down. I guess it's normal to want to smash her head because of all the yelling is getting to you, although I hope you never lay finger on her.

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  • BoredGuy

    completely normal. when someone screams at me, i completely lose it, i just get away from there before i hurt them.

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  • Gardenia

    First off, don't smash her head into a wall. That would be the worst future you bound your kids too. But anywho... Tell her when she starts screaming that your not gonna belittle yourself like her and walk out of the room. It takes a lot of strength, trust me.. But it'll save a lot of heartaches, and she will feel fucken stupid if you just leave her to scream on her own. My opinion.

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  • you should just have sex and make up !

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  • vera046

    Try a spontanious way of handling her anger. Most woman just want to feel loved. If she's screaming just walk towards her, give her a long kiss and say "baby please don't scream at me. What's wrong?" haha. I bet it'll work.

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    • Bigbrother92

      Fuck no, seriously? In a huge fight women DO NOT want that. That sounds something a girl would want. Btw this is normal. Just tell her likenthenabovenperson that you won't be little yourself and hovels a drive for awhile.make her appreciate what she has.

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  • aBiGaIl

    You "guess" you love each other? Hmmm that's kinda sad...

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  • moomus

    Just sit down when she screams and tell her you won't say another word till she's done, just like you would a toddler. That should do it.

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  • LemmeTellYou

    dont argue with her at all, dont even look at her. take her favortie sneakers and leave a steaming hot turd in their

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  • aussiewolf

    wow you BOTH need help. you shouldnt get so angry to that point, you should, after 10 years, be able to TALK to each other about things you dont agree on. maybe she has her own problems that she isnt telling you about which is why she gets so angry so easily? she might not feel like she can talk to you openly without you getting angry at her too. like i said before, you BOTH need to get help for your anger issues.

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  • Andrew256

    Kill that bitch. Show her who's boss.

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  • norm

    There may be some left-over feelings for her, but you don't love her. I doubt you even like her. Why would you? And there is no way she loves you.

    First, get some good video of her tantrums. Next, get a good lawyer. Life is way too short to spend it with such a bitch. I doubt you'll even consider it though.

    At the very least, show the videos to friends and relatives. Let everyone see her true colors. You never know, it could just shock her into improvement. She may truly not realize how bad she acts.

    It isn't doing your kids any good watching her behavior either. You may be condemning them to lives filled with broken relationships and misery with your inaction.

    Also, do some research on PMS.

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  • discipline sometimes crazy people need to be slapped once or twice three times if necessarry

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  • Murasaki

    Is it normal that a male, driven to desperation by a nagging woman, imagines beating her head to a pulp? Nope, completely natural. Should you do it and is it RIGHT? No, you should and no it is not.

    Domestic violence is never okay. Your wife probably doesn't know how to communicate to you and you've simply gotten into the habit of this style of communication. See a therapist together, or if your problems are too big, leave. For the kids - a happy broken home is better than a violent or unhappy one.

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  • First off dont do it if shes like me, she will tie you to the bed violently rape you and beat u and starve u till u die. Nice and slow! Jk but really dont do it first its ilegal second ur kid could see u and be traumatized for life and third would u like some guy to domestically beet ur wife?.. Hell no! So dont u do it either! You will cause severe emotional pain to her as well as physical but mostly emotional just dont do it!

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  • Mormodes

    Some women seem to do this just to get a rise out of the guy. Generally it is because the woman wants attention from the guy.

    My solution is generally to leave when the argument turns into screaming. Try to do it rather quietly. Neither of you are going to get anywhere when you are yelling, and take it from a former victim, it does not help the kids at all either.

    Go out, take a WALK (don't drive) and clear your head.

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  • harrypotters

    Yeah it's normal when people scream it gives off the vibes that make others pissed off, and no one likes getting screamed at anyhows.

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  • 8Serene8

    I've never understood couples fighting to the point of screaming. It's stupid. I dunno maybe suggest couples counseling seeing that she isn't willing to knock the shit off.

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  • gako

    Let me do the honors first of smashing your head against the wall.

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  • HugeDong87

    I'd love to smash your head into a wall just for saying that.

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