Is it normal to want to be mothered by your (preferably older) girlfriend?

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I guess it's because I often go through periods of such low self esteem and depression that I want to be mothered again, to be reassured about myself and comforted. And also I guess I do have some desire to feel like someone else is looking after me again (which is why I'd like her to be older, to complete the illusion), to feel that sense of security that I had as a kid. Plus then I also want a girlfriend to be with as well, to have someone to be romantically in love with. So I guess I've kind of combined both of those needs into one, I want a girlfriend who'll also mother me. Am I a freak?

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Based on 12 votes (10 yes)
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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Instead of seeking weird stuff and trying to fix yourself, why not see someone who can help you.

    All of us have been hurt somehow. What you describe is sweet, but not normal. By that I mean what you are going through, depression, low self esteem. Look a woman cant fix that. professionals cant either. But they can help you.

    I dont know what happened but get help please.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Wow, that's a really good answer, as much as I'd prefer to just have someone comfort me and mother me. But I guess it wouldn't do any real good in the long run anyway. Thank you :)

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    I'm surprised at the result of this one. I do regret adding in "Am I a freak?" at the end of it though, plus maybe I shouldn't have mentioned my low self esteem and depression. It might've made people vote that it was normal just cos they were feeling sorry for me.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Oedipus Complex.

    *puffs cigar*

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Yeah it's hard to explain it without it sounding kinda incestual, it's not though. I don't want to be in a relationship with my actual mother, but for another woman to act like a mother to me.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Yeah, because you have mommy issues. Your real mommy didn't mother you enough, right? It happenens.

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      He didn't mention his father. *takes cigar away*

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I think that's sweet. If I ever get a boyfriend Id love him to be sensitive and affectionate like that.

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      No cimanom it doesn't work that way. He needs to feel good about himself and he is hurting. He needs help to know why.

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        Yes, so I’d help. He needs someone to love and heal him.

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        • nikkiclaire
          6 years ago

          You will make an amazing girlfriend for someone.

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