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I keep thinking about having sex with a child or with an animal (mainly dogs) but I don't act on it at all, is this normal?
Fantasies are fantasies. As long as you're not hurting someone, you're perfectly fine.
I'm sorry but fantasies are not just fantasies, it is wrong to even think of such things and even though you haven't acted on it (which I pray you never will) it doesn't justify anything. There's something fundamentally wrong when an adult has fantasies of having sex with children and animals. Get help and get it sorted, this is no minor matter.
You're just too corrupted by human society laws. Plus you really shouldn't try tell people how to think.
And you shouldn't infer things that weren't said, I did not tell him how to think.. Are you condoning his fantasies? what are you trying to say? Should people accept these fantasies as normal on an attempt to be liberal and not adhere to human society laws? These "laws" are there for a reason it is because who don't "follow" these laws that cause societal decay. These laws should be called guidelines as the word law creates an image of confinement. By the way there is no such thing as "being corrupted by human society laws" on a case like this, these fantasies are wrong human society laws or not. I'm sorry you don't see it that way.
It's unfortunate that some people are born with an innate attraction to something which could never be accepted morally.
People are not innately attracted to kids and dogs; being perverted is something people adapt to and fetishize, due to numerous things, but regardless, it is always choice, taboo, surroundings, lifestyle, how one was raised, abuse, molested, depravity, the list goes on, but perversion is never innate. That is an excuse, incredibly liberal people choose to make, to sound overly "understanding" and "politically correct" (that type of politically correct attitude, is huge on this site) for thumbs up and sounding acceptable as an answer, to anyone. People use less common sense on this site and try too hard, for a thumbs up, because the commenting limit depends on it.
The attitude and incorrect assessment of right vs. wrong, choice vs. "innate desires", would be incredibly different if asked on any other site, especially regarding molestation and beastiality, no one would claim a pervert is born that way. People and their attitudes toward the topic would quickly change, if their own kids, family members, or themselves personally were violated. As far as mental, same thing, you find out your child/family member had been the fantasy of choice for a pervert's desires, that attitude = gone. Everything can be justified, until it's real to you, or in your world. It's not an issue of bias, one just finally uses common sense.. Off the internet, of course.
What are your thoughts on sexual orientation?
Do you believe gay people are made or born?
Gay people are born that "way", which is not a "wrong way" to be. It is pretty simple and not as complex as people try to make it. Human innate desires, and response, are towards humans/other people. Not inanimate objects, animals (or anything else) that doesn't assist pro-creation. Of course people create fetish of anything. Even inanimate objects. Were they born ejaculating to balloons popping? No. Did they create their own fetish and taboo aspects? Yes. Sexuality is human nature and pertains to the most natural desire, to pro-create, even when the intentions are NOT to pro-create/have a family. Not everyone wants that, nor can a gay couple pro-create, naturally, but that doesn't mean it removes the desire to have sex, and a lot of gay couples eventually desire a family, at some point.
The point being, sex is a desire we want/have with people. Children, whom ones innate desire and response is to protect, nurture, teach, assist in development, and numerous other things, that are NOT, "Let me go assault that child, sexually, because I'm "born" wanting to sexually assault children ", perversion is a choice and fetishistic desire, because a pervert has indulged in aspects like taboo/dominance they have, to destroy innocence and take advantage of someone, it is something they teach themselves and is often the result of abuse, molestation, wanting to be dominant, wanting to feel powerful, over someone powerless and helpless, enjoying the "secrecy" and thrill of luring/don't tell anyone/sneaking into a room; it is all choice and having fantasized about the idea, so much, that it becomes the main predators "fetish" and urning.
You're not born that way, you become that way; as said, a normal person will see a child standing alone -- lost in the store/crying, and your initial reaction is to HELP. You see a crying child wandering the streets at night, you want to help them. You visit family, and their children, you interact with them, you want to teach and nurture. That is innate. That is how you respond to children. Most people will smile at the sight of a child doing something endearing, in public, because you see someone innocent and care-free, it makes you feel a sense of joy and you have a good reaction.
Perverts pick and choose when to be "normal" and feel those things and when to choose a child they see and would like to violate. Taking the element of normality out, and WANTING to violate a child, if it fits their profile of children they fantasize about; the same goes for animals.
These abnormal sexual desires are created in their life, depending on so many factors, lifestyle, how they were raised, what they indulge in, in their free time and have created for themselves in a world of perversion. It is not a illness, it is not a choice, it is not how a human reacts, naturally, it is being a deviant and intentionally enjoying the extreme natures of "fetishizing" everything that is taboo.
This post is also, most likely a troll post, but it doesn't change ignorant, overly liberal reactions, trying to sound like everything is justified, if a thumbs up is given and if it makes you seem really "understanding".
As long as you don't do it then that's fine. Fantasies are just fantasies, anyway.
If OP gets anywhere near my Siamese Dream I'll chop his weiner off with a rusty cleaver.
;-)
Ok. First, most of the people commenting are idiots.
Fantasies are the subconcious way of doing something extraordinary, something you would not ordinarally do, like jumping off a roof or having sex with a kid or an animal.
Fantasies are harmless.
And every single person on the planet has had and will experience at least fifty fantasies (that is, things they wouldn't normally do) through their lifetimes. Including every one of the idiots who have commented that you are sick.
If you dont have aids, cancer, the flu or another disease then you aren't sick.
Thinking about sex with kids, animals or even the dead is not a disease so you cant be sick.
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And to you idiots who think it is..?
Is thinking about how you would like to kill rapists, murderers, paedophiles or terrorists not as bad. Or do you just think that you are better than others.
And not one of you can say that you've never thought about killing people that do such things, Which makes you Sick, so go get help and leave others to their fantasies.
Use your web browser. Type in ANIMAL SEX VIDEOS. There are hundreds of Thousands of different videos on the web. You assholes that think its wrong. Theres probably someone in your own family screwing the dog right now.
ITS QUITE NORMAL.
You've heard the saying that if the majority is doing it, it must be ok.
No, this is not normal. I see many people on the comment thread suggest that since it is a harmless fantasy that you are okay, but I would disagree. First of all, validation of these feelings may cause you to determine that it is okay to act upon them in the future (I don't know you personally so I couldn't say for sure). But more importantly, by sexualizing children and animals you are displaying a desire to be with individuals whose brain development does not allow for the sort of agency and consent that is mandatory amongst adults for a safe and healthy experience. We could argue that consent is a moral and thus fallible concept, but it is ultimately part of the social contract that allows any society to function. I would suggest taking to a professional. If you are worried about said professional taking legal action, perhaps you could explain your problem as the desire to sexualize those without power or agency instead of pedophilia or beastiality.
Yes but do not act on it I think we all have sexual fantasy about these things at one time or another however doing it would not be a good idea
I think many people have attractions or desires that they know they should not have. We judge other people because we know if we reveal nothing, they cannot judge us. You should never act on these desires though if they harm another person.
I wouldn't call it normal, no. But as long as you don't act on it, there's nothing wrong with it.
My answer really depends on how one defines "normal" here. It isn't normal in the sense of being a common thing (at least, as far as I know). Morally, though, I'd say you're perfectly fine as long as you don't act on said fantasies. People can't help who or what they're attracted to (how many popular songs are about wanting to get over someone but not being able to??), but the difference is how they react to having said fantasies. My sympathies, because that has to be a tough thing to deal with. If it's impacting your quality of life or (especially if) you think you're getting to the point where you might not be able to control said urges anymore, I'd urge you to seek some counseling and/or a support group. I was talking to someone the other day who runs some sort of group thing for those who suffer from pedophilia but haven't acted on it, and apparently it can really help individuals in that situation. There are resources out there, so if you need them, don't be afraid to reach out and go for it :)
I don't see anything wrong with this post. That's the point of this site, isn't it?
It's allowed, and if you looked into it you'd see that it's actually quite a common theme here.
To the OP: I have no idea how to assess your situation as far as "normality" goes (animals: not normal; children: I'm honestly not sure), but so long as you're not hurting anyone, you're no monster.
By the way, I'd think twice before taking CheyChey's advice; I predict that getting "help" could harm you more than it could help you.