Is it normal to think that her just being “one of the guys” is a red flag?

i hate to say this but i really think it depends

like i'm in a group of friends with a girl who's one of the guys, and she really is just one of the guys

I only have male friends. I'm not a very talkactive or emotional-talking person and I don't like having my space invaded or people touching me. Women seems to think that's weird or annoying because they always wanna be up in each other spaces hugging and being silly. There's exceptions of course I just haven't met any yet i've just heard there are lmao.
I don't sit and hang out in groups with guys though, I can't stand any group wether it's a group of men or a group of women. I find it pretty common that emotional men have many or only female friends, and women who aren't typically feminine in their approach to other people have many male friends but really you attract people whom you get along with, regardless of gender. It depends on what people you have around you. If I met a guy who took issue with that i'd have no problem dumping him, friends are family. They've earned my trust, some random guy I meet has not plus i'm not much for insecure, controlling guys. I also think that any man who automatically assumes opposite gender=sex is pretty sexual in nature and I am not a very sexual person so already there i'd decide we're not a match. I would never date someone who was that focused in on sex, i've even had romantic relationships without sex in the past.

I mean theoretically you could wear a condom and just enjoy your moment with her?

Or you could pass all together

Do you have like a knot in your lower stomach or something? I watched a video about gut instinct and intuition and how they can helpful, like being able to avoid danger or an example given was when you're walking your dog that barks at other dogs and your gut said to choose a certain path, you should start paying attention to see if you're right, even going down the bad path to see (like opening Shrodinger's Box)

You could apply this idea in other ways too as long as you feel safe. It's pretty empowering if you can rely on your intuition, I feel like it can be honed

Maybe you could apply it to choosing who you approach more wisely, thus attracting her attention as well possibly. I would think these attractions build better relationships or maybe even friendships

One of the ways i coped with being gay is only hanging out with women, i felt comfortable around them, as with men i only felt like i was being sexual.

The girls who are just “one of the guys” are almost always total sluts.

There are great exceptions but it’s not common...

I think it depends on the girl, though it certainly can be.

Although I have a mix of male and female friends, I will say it's easier for me to talk to guys vs. girls when it comes to people my age. They seem more laid back, while sometimes young girls tend to see other girls as competition and be catty or two-faced. It all depends on the person, of course, but this is generally speaking. I also tend to have more common interests with guys. I think some girls probably feel the same way and feel that they just fit in better with guys or feel more comfortable around them.

IME, usually the girls who like to play "catch and release" tend to not keep guys around for very long, much less as friends. Some may be different and like the attention, though.

Really, I think you just have to decide whether or not this is a deal breaker for you, and whether or not you'd be able to trust a girl in a situation like this. Maybe get to know her a little better first and see what her interactions with those guy friends are like. Follow your gut.

Bonjour
Je ne sais pas. J'ai été ce genre de fille pendant 30 ans. Mais j'ai eu des amoureux.
Aujourd'hui encore la plupart de mes amis sont des hommes.

Then she's not the girl for you!

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