Is it normal to think so far ahead and for so many outcomes!?

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With everything, no matter how big or small the matter is, I think of every possible way it could go for both the long-term and short-term. It's like my mind makes an outline with offshoots for every possible scenario, and offshoots off of those offshoots and so on.

This doesn't just apply to decisions, it applies to everything. Literally everything. I also think of how people will affect whatever it is, and all the options I have regarding what to do if people are involved. If they say this, I'll do this or this, for example. I have a fucking solution for everything!!

I'm not complaining, I like this about myself. If things go off without a hitch, then I can feel happy and if things require my previously thought up plans, then I'm happy as well because I'm prepared for it and it doesn't derail me.

My husband, however, doesn't think like this and he calls me a pessimist or negative. I'm not being negative, I don't think, I think I'm being smart and prepared. It's not that I THINK something's going to go wrong, it's just that if something does go wrong I like to have a solution. I usually have a relatively neutral view of things in general, I don't really have high hopes about most stuff but I also don't have negative feelings either, I think it's just realistic and logical thinking-not negative or positive. Anyway, I've found it's only helped me to be like this, it's never hurt me, so what's the problem?

Is it normal to be so fixated on planning and possible scenarios?

What's your planning style?

Is It Normal?
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  • minipeewee
    12 years ago | pl

    i'm exactly like u. i'm a problem solver. i love a challenge, nothing is too complicated. i can usually think of any solution in matter of seconds but it's all based on the other solutions wouldn't work as well. people think of me as negative too.

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  • babe7575
    12 years ago | pl

    I tend to do this too but it is very time consuming and sometimes stops you from living life to the fullest. Although when you do come up with solutions to situations that do backfire its nice to know that you had already furnished an escape route! I think you are being smart too! but like I said... learn to explore and live your life... no matter the outcome.

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  • elitist
    12 years ago | pl

    LOLZ, it's not a fixation. I assume you're a woman. This 'skill' is genetically hard-wired into the female brain through evolution. Sadly many modern women no longer use it. Very few men have it, but those that do tend to show other female qualities (not girly-men, just less caveman-ish than normal).

    Hope for the best, plan for the worst.
    Figure out every possible worst-case scenario and plan so it doesn't happen? It's sad that less intelligent people see this as a BAD thing and will generally insult you for it. But C'est La Vie.. when the shit hits their fan, just sit back and know you would have never gotten into that mess in the first place!

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