Is it normal to think sex would be better as a man?

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I've had sex before - granted, not a lot of times - and I can't help but conclude that sex must be way better for men than women.

Having a female reproductive system in the first place kind of sucks - you get periods, cramps and infections, but then you add sex and have to worry about STDs, potential pregnancy, higher risk of UTI, and soreness. I mean, sex can be painful for women since they're the ones getting something shoved inside their bodies. It's pretty invasive.

Plus, with sexual assault being more prevalent among women than men, many women who are victims might end up with bad impressions of sex that ruin the fun part of it for them.

If I were a guy, I'd probably want to have sex a lot. It'd be easier and more fun probably. As a girl, though, it just doesn't seem worth the 20 minutes of feeling good for all the other risks. I don't think there's anything wrong with sex, but it just looks way more advantageous for men.

Is it normal to think that way?

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  • Shrunk
    8 years ago | pl

    I feel the same. I dream and fantasize about being a guy, and I would have sex with just about anyone lol, whereas in a female body, I have no desire for it at all...

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  • Avant-Garde
    8 years ago | pl

    Men are not immune to STDs/STIs or urinary tract infections.

    The last time I checked, men can't have multiple orgasms.

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    • theattorney
      8 years ago | pl

      Of course they're not immune to them. No one said that.

      Multiple orgasms aren't as common as you might think, either. In fact, it's much more common that a woman fakes an orgasm after the man's finished and is left unsatisfied.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago | pl

    Im sure its better for men. I find sex is very overrated and vibrators are very underrated.

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  • CreativeThinker
    8 years ago | pl

    Thats not exactly the case for every man .... To enjoy a sexual life a man must born with strong nerves for better stamina and an average size dick .... just google chronic erectile dyfucntion & pre mature ejaculation and see how many men are cursing their life.....
    However in anycase I do admit mens have certain advantages over females ..............

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago | pl

    You are completely right, men have it a lot easier than woman. The reason for this is that Eve was the first one to have sinned...Ha-ha-ha that`s bullshit!

    I am glad i am a man. I have been married twice (still married to my second wife) and i must say that the amount of problems you girls go through with your "plumbing" is frightening!

    I have yet to meet the man that thinks it is beautiful to see a vagina pop open to press out a baby.

    Vaginal infections are not only a bitch to get but in most cases quite embarrassing for the recipient, not only do some of them itch and smell disgusting, the poor woman then also has to either face seeing her GP or going to the pharmacy to get some anti-fungal cream to get it cleared up.

    Menstruation obviously has its own little fun things for a woman to yet again bear, buying tampons, inserting tampons, removing tampons, disposing of tampons, blah blah blah...

    then of course there is STD`s another lot of fun things for a woman to achieve!

    Getting pregnant is probably one of the biggest concerns when having a little bit of fun.

    Right Girl, men have it easy, their most difficult job during the whole sex experience is to get there penis to stand to attention and remain that way until the job is done, after that it is normally, "wham, bam and thank you madam!" my needs have been served / seen to, cheerio! (Guy goes to bathroom, washes his dick, takes a piss and off he goes)

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago | pl

    Well, you have to consider that if a woman gets pregnant, the guy, in my opinion, is at much higher risk in life. Many men's lives have been ruined merely due to having to pay for a child they never wanted, where as a woman can just abort.

    As for sexual assault between men and women. Mehhhh, I could go in to that but I'm not going to unless asked.

    It certainly isn't easier for guys to get sex, it's far more easier for women in general to get sex.

    So, us guys don't really have it as great as you may think. Lol.

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    • theattorney
      8 years ago | pl

      I understand the child support argument, but 'just abort?' Any idea how painful abortions are? And they're not free, usually. You say it like an abortion is a walk in the park lol.

      I won't argue that guys don't have their own difficulties to deal with in sex, but physically, at least, it seems 100 times easier.

      Sure it's easier for women to get sex in most cases, but there are more women who feel they don't really need sex than men I would guess. That's a generalization, of course, but you get what I mean.

      I'm primarily thinking about the act of sex itself, and who has the advantage there.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago | pl

        Well, you could abort, adopt, or use the many forms of birth control.
        I'll never be in the position to have an abortion, not being female and all, however I would take on the pain of an abortion over being forced to pay a life crushing amount of money every month for eighteen years, which prevents me from creating a family when I am ready due to not being able to financially support that family, or even sustain a healthy living standard, and risk becoming suicidal over it any day. Lol.

        Physically, meh, yes and no. A woman's first time can be painful and so can her experience with a man with a penis the width and/or size she has not experienced yet, but then again those scenarios aren't the norm. So I'll give you that one given the "possibility" of it being painful at some points.

        I'm not sure I do get what you mean. Could you elaborate on that, please? :)

        Well, guys actually very rarely get orgasms if you're talking in terms of pleasure. Most people aren't even aware how to give men the biggest orgasms they can get, nor do most men know themselves. People tend to confuse ejaculation with orgasms. If that's what you mean?

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        • Hugh*Janus
          8 years ago | pl

          "guys actually very rarely get orgasms"

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago | pl

            You know there is a difference between ejaculation and orgasm, right?

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            • Hugh*Janus
              8 years ago | pl

              Yeah but in 99% of healthy normal males they both happen together the majority of the time. It's evolution at work. Male orgasm triggers the refractory period in which he becomes limp and desire to go on diminishes so as to leave the semen in place to up the chance of conception. What the fuck are you talking about???

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        • theattorney
          8 years ago | pl

          And your perceived easiness of the female side of things probably comes from the fact that you've never been female. Same can be said for me, since I've never been male. We're both biased.

          But I have to say, putting the responsibility for birth control solely on women is a bad idea. If the risk of having to pay child support for a child you don't want bothers you so much, then why not take some responsibility yourself in preventing it? Really, though, they should be focusing on making more options for male forms of birth control.

          As for what I said earlier - sure, it's easier for women to get sex, but if they don't want it that much, then why does it matter if it's easier? I was generalizing because I know there are many women with high sex drives, but was asserting that women generally don't feel that they 'need' to have sex as badly as men, so whether or not it's easy for them to obtain is kind of irrelevant.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago | pl

            I'm merely statingpublic knowledge that can be available to both males and females. Just because something is done to one sex and the other cannot experience it, does not mean they don't know of those experiences or options existing.

            I never put the responsibility of birth control solely on women nor said it should be...At most I was implying women should be using them just as much if not more sure to the numerous options, not that men should not be, for example, wearing condomes...So I don't know where you got what you claimed I was saying from...

            I personally don't find the "men should wear birth control if they don't want to be forced to pay for a child they didn't want" thing, which I assume you mean. Ofcourse men should use birth control aswell but sometimesthe condoms break, which is why I think there should be a safety net for men, like women, to not be at risk of paying for a child they didn't want. Ofcourse, in a way that does not conflict with a woman's right to abort.

            I don't know if women want sex as much as men or not. Some articles claim they do, some claim otherwise. So can't speak too much on that. The point is it's still available for them if they want it very easily, if they have sex a lot or not. Where as for a man, even if he is looking for sex, it is generally harder for the average guy to get sex.

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            • theattorney
              8 years ago | pl

              Lol. Sure, you might know about those things existing, but you probably don't know what it feels like, so your reactions are likely to be more flippant.

              I'm saying the fact that wearing condoms or getting a vasectomy are pretty much the only birth control methods available for men is stupid. That's a societal thing, not anyone in particular's fault.

              In general, though, most men seem to think women should take the responsibility for preventing pregnancy (complaining that condoms make sex less enjoyable, for example, so the woman should be on the pill). Or even STDs. I've heard a ton of young men complain that they have to get HPV shots now, too. As if that should only be a female thing.

              To be honest with you, I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for the 'it's harder for the average guy to get sex,' thing. It's harder for the average guy because women are generally choosier about who they sleep with, BECAUSE of the disadvantages I've mentioned above. And not to mention - although this is completely subjective - there are a lot more attractive women out there than there are attractive men. If you were a woman, would you let just anybody come along and stick their genitals inside you? Doesn't sound attractive, does it?

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago | pl

    There is a flip side to all of this. It is far better to be a woman who does not have sex than to be a man who can not get sex. The man will be completely miserable and not live a long life.

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  • Miezekatz
    8 years ago | pl

    I am quite happy being a woman and I like sex with my boyfriend a lot! O.k. I thought it would be interesting how sex would be with a male body, but can you really do anything about it without an operation *g*?

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago | pl

    If ur orgasms and sex isn't better than what ur man is gettin, one/both of u isn't doing it right. If he is leaving u hanging and ur orgasms aren't hard enough, he isn't teasing u up right, or isn't fuckin u right. There's ALOT to be said for foreplay. It's way harder to get someone off with just ur cock without the foreplay. Takes longer.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago | pl

    What? No way. Men can only cum once. Women can have multiple orgasms in a row. And with men, u have an actual appendage that needs to be hard to work, with women, u slap on some lube and go. Yeah... I've never had an orgasm that makes me speak in tongues and jerk and shudder and not be able to stand or sit up or even say my own name, and I've given more than a few women Os like that. And not ONE has returned the favor, because THEY CANT. I don't think men are capable of having orgasms like that. I've never had a sex coma hit me so hard I just passed out. Maybe I'm the odd guy that doesn't have multiple orgasms... But I'm pretty sure most men are the same way

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    • Davis3351
      8 years ago | pl

      That's bull crap I can cum 3 times in a row its just takes a bit of lube ;D

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago | pl

    Considering the back-arching, uncontrollable moaning, face-reddening orgasms I've seen girls have I think it must be better for girls. In my opinion

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  • LizardSkin
    8 years ago | pl

    It's way easier to GET Sex for (most) women. So there's your trade off.

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    • theattorney
      8 years ago | pl

      Is it really worth it, though?

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      • LizardSkin
        8 years ago | pl

        depends on who you ask I guess. Guys want it more but many have a much harder time getting it than women. Even avg/good looking guys.

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  • loopoo
    8 years ago | pl

    Blame Eve

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  • Dulse.
    8 years ago | pl

    Sure it's normal to feel that way. Everybody has an opinion, and that's cool.

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