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Whatever I did, mostly everything were trainwrecks. My efforts very hardly came into fruition like I desired to the point I would get very, I mean very weirded out if I ever succeed in anything. At this rate, I want to find my form of escapism already. Fuck this life. I guess I am really not ready to face this cruel world like other human beings.
Yes, reality can be evil. It can suck, it can be hard, but that's because there's so many different routes you can go with it. It's up to you to make it good for yourself. Figure out what it is in your life that sucks, and get rid of it. Move, get new friends, whatever it is. Find what you're passionate in and pursue it. It's such a cliche thing to say, but it's a cliche for a reason.
Thanks a lot for the advice. I don't think it's cliché. I do agree with you but I am having a hard time finding the best possible route for me. Every choices that I made mostly failed. I only have one thing I am good at and passionate about(one thing, really) but I still fail to turn it into my source of success. Doesn't help that it's hard for me to make some new friends because I am socially awkward retard ajd too shy to initiate a conversation with someone I don't know.
I am so sorry for being so negative and might be ruining your happiness just by reading this but I really need to vent right now. I might try again finding the best route to my happiness soon but right now I just want to rest my emotions for however long it takes and finding a form of escapism.
I'm sorry for responding so late, I haven't been super active lately. But I understand your sadness and failures. I'm a college student. Routes have been super hard and hell yeah, I've failed a bunch. What is your thing that you are passionate about? What drives you?
I'm going to tell you a little story about my awkwardness and shyness to maybe hope to somehow help you, even just a little bit. In middle school, I was quiet. Super quiet. Like the teachers didn't even know my name on the last day of school. I wanted to make friends, but I felt like I was this person who was labeled as not being able to. High school came around, and I decided to transfer to a school where little to nobody from my original middle school was there. I needed that fresh start to be outgoing and not have that label of "being quiet." Yeah, it was scary for me because I was so used to it, but I wanted to be outgoing because that's who I was. I talked to every single person I could the first day of school, and eventually joined my schools leadership and did sports. I even spoke at my graduation. Something I wouldn't have been able to envision.
My point is sometimes a new surrounding makes all the difference. Fresh faces, fresh start, first new impressions. That's kinda the point I was trying to make in my first comment. I have anxiety too (diagnosed just to put it out there), and I've found ways with my high school to cope with it rather than to try to push it out. Of course I had many failed attempts like presenting in Spanish or something like that, but life has been so much better ever since.
Be kind to yourself, I know the pain you're going through. It's so difficult to feel lost. But that one thing you're passionate about could really change your life, so keep chasing it. Work for it. Do whatever you can to make it something that you can live off of. All the work will be worth it to you.
I feel the same way. It's normal. Try to do something nice for yourself and forget the rest.
Why cant people just be nihilistic? The universe isnt good or bad it's been functioning the same way for billions of years! People need to start paying attention to what cards are left in the game of life and do some card counting!
I'm with you, bro. Idealists don't count the deck. They almost always finish last, then they embrace their failures. Yuck.
I was delt a below average deck. Since I anticipated what would be the future and how it can be accomplished I swung ahead and now I'm doing better than if I would have taken the beating.
Sounds good. I was dealt a hand with gutter level attractiveness to females, terrible parents, and high mathematical intelligence. I learned early, the importance of accentuating the positive. With lots of practice I got good at this. Regretfully, it's been a tough life rarely if ever being able to get laid.
I know what you mean. If I do something right,or if something turns out the way that I want it to, I am shocked.
It's not about lovey dovey relationship at all when I made this post. It's actually about me always failing at something I am passionate to do like selling semi realistic arts for living.
I am single and not interested in intimate relationship yet so far but I am sure I am going to fuck it up too if I ever get myself into seeking a girl in the future.
I used to talk to a psychiatrist and took a counselling. While their emotional supports made sense, I eventually quitted seeing them because none of them works for me. Whenever I tried to be positive and moving on after failing at something, failure always made me negative and brought me down once again.
I am afraid to get myself into taking meds because of their underlying side effects and don't want to end up having to rely on them most of the time. Right now, I wish I can at least be sincerely positive about something to strengthen so I am strong enough to keep trying again.
I agree in your apprehension against medication. There is a lot you can do with your diet though.
You're going to have to be uncomfortable before you can grow. Not anyone is good at everything, but everyone's good at something.
Thanks for the advice. Though I am currently slim, my diet is unplanned and I ate whatever I felt like so that could also be the reason why sometimes I felt miserable about stuff. What was your diet to keep you happy for the rest of the days?
On your second paragraph, the thing is when I observed other person around me, they're good at more than one thing unlike me. For instances, one of them is good at singing while also being atheletic. The other is good at cooking, planning marketing strategy and programming. The list goes on for those lucky people.
Not saying it's impossible to achieve success with only one and only talent but it's certainly much tougher compared to those who have multiple talents. It's like that person has to rely on that one talent only even if he failed at it and the choice is very limited for him/her to try new stuff .