Is it normal to think one of your friend sucks?

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I have a friend who we’ll call Preston.

He always needs a ride when we go somewhere, and rarely, if ever, manages to be on time. After the favor is done I get the fanous “maybe next time I’ll drive.” Ha! And he even complained the music I listened to. He sighed when I turned on my Smooth Jazz music.

He has bad aniexty and always seems to see what can go wrong in a situation. Plus he’s been iritable lately. Which I guess is human, but throw in all the other faults and it makes him seem worse.

If I didn’t have so many other negative people in my life I can handle him, or if he had issues that he couldn’t help I wouldn’t mind, but Preston is starting to annoy me.

We have the same friend group and they tend to be sympathetic to him. I normally am, but with other negative people I my life, he just feels like a burden.

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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

Maybe you just need a little break, like as week long vacation from people?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Or a year vacation!
  
  But really, I have a break from work and people coming up soon and I couldn’t be happier.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    I would love to go on a vacation from my elderly parents. I love them, but damn...
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      I hear ya, though my parents aren’t quite elderly yet, but they both have grown cynical and only see the negative. It’s draining.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        I just came out of a bad relationship back September of last year. I'm middle aged, and my parents are getting to the age where they kinda need help. My dad is 81, his back is all fucked up, and the back surgery that was supposed to help him kinda just made things worse so now he doesn't get around much. My mother is is 79, she is much more ambulatory, but she has terribly high blood pressure and diabetes; my mother doesn't always take her medication, and she's starting to get diabetic neuropathy.
        
        Also my mother is the one with whom I have had personality issues all my life. I feel like my mom is always lying, and making up crazy stories. I can't say that this is entirely for sure nowadays, but my Mom is a bit of a gaslighting queen, and my teen years were her heyday. My mother is a very manipulative and controlling person, she never admits when she is wrong and she rarely says she's sorry. The funny thing is that my mom can be very generous and loving when it comes the giving of money and material things, and she is also always cooking. If I'm really sick she can make the best chicken soup.
        
        My dad on the other hand is super honest and funny. He used to run marathons, and I usually love spending time with him. My dad always looks the other way and excuses my mother's bad behavior. The one thing is that he kinda expects me to just look the other way, then immediately excuse and forgive her bad behavior. I'm not the sort of person to do that at all.
        
        Ugh, it's kinda like torture, but I did freely choose to come here after all the previous bullshit with my stupid ex. I'm not in the best of health, and oftentimes I feel my existence is soul crushing. What can be really hard is sometimes I just want to vent, then other people hear me venting and they think I'm asking them to solve my problem or whatever. It's that I'm not willing to listen to suggestions, but I'm not looking for some random, especially some random dude, to fix me or solve my problem. I'm not looking for some guy to save me, if figure the saving thing is between me and God, and a lot of it just comes down to me asking God for the strength and wisdom to get through this bullshit.
        
        Sorry for the crazy rant. It's just drags me down sometimes.
        
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        5 years ago
        
        I’ll listen to your rant anytime.
        
        I can partially empathize about older loved ones causing an emotional burden and needing a break.
        
        I’m sorry about your parents. I’m sure it was heartbreaking seeing your father still struggle after his surgery.
        
        I really hope your mother treats you better, and I hope she doesn’t need an amputation. Diabetes really is an awful disorder.
        
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Boojum

5 years ago

Have you asked about Preston here before? What you say definitely rings a bell.

If someone is annoying you, then you have two choices: avoid him, or accept that he is how he is.

One thing I've learned in life is that you can't change someone else. People can alter their view of life and how they deal with others, but that has to come from within, and it first requires recognising that there's a problem. Lots of people find it difficult to see that they have a problem, and it's even harder to actually adjust their attitude.

Maybe you need to tell Preston that you recognise that something is particularly bothering him at the moment, but you're not in a place where you can deal with that, he's getting you down and you need to detach a little for a while.

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dude814o

5 years ago

as long as your friend knows how best you like having you dick sucked and follows your wishes when sucking you..otherwise, it's just cruel

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  5 years ago
  
  Ignoring your first part, I fail to see how this is cruel to be annoyed by a 26 year old who lacks respect for being on time while first asking for a ride.
  
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  - dude814o
    
    5 years ago
    
    sorry, was in a mood that day and only meant that a person who is only 26 is annoyed to the point of distraction without approaching /Preston and just saying what he feels and asking what's going on... that is just cruel.. my thoughts got away from me as they do at times like that and I wrote incorrectly what was intended.. thank you for pointing that out to me..
    
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Swordfire

5 years ago

Most of my friends are terrible but they are still my friends

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