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Like, to be consorned about how your mother would feel if she knew her little girl is 15 and sexually active. That worries me sometimes. I know it's my life and my choices but I'm afraid I could upset my parents. I don't mind them being mad, but being sad...
Has anyone else ever felt like this?
Being a teenager is scary as hell sometimes. We worry about stuff. Worry about what our friends think, worry about what our parents think, worry about grades, worry about being liked by our peers, worry about the opposite sex liking us (or same sex of course). Worry about our sexuality. Our hormones are going crazy. The teenage brain does some pretty strange ridiculous stuff.
With that said, fifteen is still emotionally young. Your imagination goes wild, and you are convinced that your first love is "the one" which unfortunately for the teenager, is rarely the case. You can lose yourself trying to please your boyfriend/girlfriend. I was sixteen which is slightly older than the OP, and I was smart about it because I didn't do anything that I knew could get me pregnant, but there were repercussions anyway. Nobody really talks about the emotional repercussions.
For one, chances are you still live at your parents house, and you can't drive yet. So there's not really anywhere to go. It doesn't feel very romantic when you're having to sneak around and hide from people because you don't have a place of your own. And also, since you like the person so much, you're more interested in doing whatever you can to please them and keep them around. Especially when you hear younger guys saying, "if she don't give me oral sex, she's outta there." I haven't really heard much of that from girls, and honestly you don't hear it much in real life, but you see it a lot on the internet. Girls worry about whether or not they're pleasing their boyfriends. This is a fact of life because our culture (Hollywood, music, people, the media) pushes sex on young people. It's like....basically expected that in high school, you experiment a bit. Not to mention, sometimes you really want to.
Lastly, the brain doesn't fully develop until around 25 years of age. This is around the time your good judgement starts to kick in (give or take a few years). That's why you'll often hear about high schoolers doing reckless things (partying hard, drinking, experimenting with drugs, experimenting with sexual stuff, having actual sex). And then you get the college kids partying like crazy - this might be a stereotype in our country, I couldn't tell you because I'm just a senior in high school, I've taken up classes at my local community college though.
But once people graduate college, they seem to mellow down. Then they get married, have kids, and have jobs and responsibilities. Ain't nobody got time for partying then.
Anyway, to the OP: I hope this gave you some clarity, or whatever you needed. You might feel bad for a time and then it will pass. For me, I felt pretty bad because my parents had always preached the "no sexual experimentation until marriage" deal, and I thought they'd be super disappointed in me. I'm close with my parents, so I ended up telling my mom. Anyway, if it really is eating away at you, you can tell your parents. Tell them you feel guilty and scared that they'll be disappointed. And then, in the future, make sure to avoid doing things that you feel like you could regret afterwards. That might sound kind of lame to some people, but if you have problems with feeling guilty or hold yourself up to a ridiculous standard (or if you've been raised religious), then it's good.
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You are 15? Get off the website its not for children. Secondly its never smart to be having sex at 15. You might have the ability to get pregnant but it does not mean you are ready to be sexually active or carry a child.
If you get pregnant do you have a job where you make enough money to support a kid? Guess who pays if you have a baby? The government and your parents. Which indirectly all tax payers which all your fellow classmates will soon be. They will have jobs paying for the fact that you decided to have a baby you can not afford.
So yeah you should probobly think about all this before you get pregnant. Not to mention the many STDS. Why dont you stop worrying about your parents being upset and look at this logically.
Why would you parents NOT want you to have sex? Things like this are not usually for nothing. Stop thinking with between your legs and use your head. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT! Follow this advice when you do anything.
Think about all the possible results of doing this. Think of every scenario and weigh your options. Trust me you will get in a lot less trouble if you THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. We do not need another 15 year old mother crying "Wahnnn Im preggers and mommy kicked me out" well no fucking shit.
someone woke up one the bitch train, one: when i was 13 i thought this site was for teenagers, and honestly there should be sites for teens and pre-teens to go to to ask advice of their peers and people older than them since its awkward to ask alot of this from your parents. two: while i agree with you i hate paying taxes to support other peoples children when i cant really support my and my gf without a child and three: you do know almost everywhere you can buy condoms from like any pharmacy with NO ID at like 14 and hopefully with sex ed in schools at 7th grade kids know about condoms and such
Gently....she's a little upset about this, remember? To be honest, it's not uncommon for girls her age to be sexually active. It's just one year under sixteen isn't it? Sixteen is the legal age in lots of countries, and some states I'm pretty sure. I was sixteen when I first did something remotely sexual. And just because I was sixteen didn't mean I was automatically going to be stupid about it and not protect myself. Actually I wouldn't have gotten pregnant anyway because we never went all the way, just part of the way. One could argue I'm still a virgin. TMI, sorry. I'm an open book.