Is it normal to think of leaving my boyfriend because he is dirty?
I mean we've been together for 5 years but only a few months ago we kind of started to live together (i spend most of the week at his place) and I already knew he wasn't the cleanest person i've met but not the dirtiest either!!!! Until now. For example if he eats something he leaves everything (dishes, envelopes, etc) where he eats (he doesn't have a table so he eats on his bed) and obviously he will leave the crumbs or any remains there, open.
The house he lives hasn't been fumigated entirely, like the men who do it just spray a liquid on the corners of the room and you don't even have to leave the room... it's like they just spray Raid or something so of course some cockroaches die but the ones who remain there are still reproducing so whatever they do makes no effect. SO i always randomly run into them anywhere, even the fff BED.
i of course have told him i hate them and am always stressed about it and then there's the fact that if i don't tell him to pick up the trash or clean something he won't do it.... and if i get mad and start cleaning by myself he gets mad because he thinks i'm overreacting. he tells me i just have to deal with it.
We've made some "advances" like we bought some cleaning stuff but he won't touch it if i don't tell him to............
Like i'm just mad that just for the fact that i'm a girl i have to be the one cleaning and tidying up???? it tires me and i always get the same "you are overreacting" s***.
he used to have another apartment and he did tidy up that one but didn't clean as much...
He also goes to college and works most days, so he doesn't have much time and that's why i have been understanding but sometimes i get tired of it.
whatcha think