Is it normal to think he'll be lonely and unhappy if he won't change?

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My friend is shallow, clingy, and has bad anxiety. He dumped all of that on his partners over the years, and traumatized them with the way he is. He gets sad if they don't look a certain way, is very materialistic, cries if they show any sign of change and if he doesn't get an item he wants. he said he'd have a kid with someone only if it meant he wouldn't be lonely. I feel like he's going to wind up an old,lonely, divorced, sad sack who sells his collections just to have money for a place to live. How do I help my friend?

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  • S12207
    6 years ago

    Sounds like he has alot of growing up to do and unfortunately, only he can do that through life experience. Maybe it's meeting the right person?

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    You can't help him—he has to help himself. You can, however, recommend he make some changes, but if he doesn't pursue them and doesn't improve, it's best to remove him from your life.

    My recommendation is that he googles 'No More Mr. Nice Guy pdf' and clicks the first link he finds. He needs to learn how to be a more grounded man and more stoic. There are plenty of resources online.

    Only through daily, constant improvement (working out, learning skills, etc) will he build that self esteem.

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  • _ItsScience
    6 years ago

    Maybe not a Therapist but what about therapy? Like, I don't know, vacation therapy, excercise therapy, emotional therapy?
    Maybe he needs a therapy dog, one specifically to help with depression.

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  • _ItsScience
    6 years ago

    Get him some professional help, like a behavioral counselor, or a therapist.

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    • BigScaryRooster
      6 years ago

      He's been to therapists before. He said he can go back but they only help to a certain extent. His current partner confided in me all the shit he's doing(just like all his other partners have) and I almost feel like this dude is never going to change. Is there anything other than therapy that can help?

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      • anormalperson
        6 years ago

        some people are just like that, not much you can do,one more question , why are you friends with this dude anyway?

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