You may think you know why a person seems uncomfortable around you, but unless you're a mind reader, you probably don't. Could it be about your race or religion or whatever it is that makes you different from themselves? Yes, of course. However, some people are uncomfortable around other people - period. They have their own reasons for that, which you will probably never understand since you haven't walked in their shoes. When a person with anxiety issues is around other people, they simply can't help showing their anxiety. The other person will often automatically assume that it has to do with whatever it is that defines them as being most different from the anxious one. If they are extra tall, or extra short, or extra fat, or extra thin, or white, or black, or male, or female, or gay - or whatever it may be that makes them different - they will tend to jump to conclusions.
Trust me - it isn't always all about you. It might be because the person has such an inferiority complex that they constantly feel they are being judged by others. They may believe that they have body odor and that they are offending the other person simply by being in their airspace and want to get away as quickly as possible. They may have bowel or bladder issues, and they need to find a bathroom soonest. They may be having a low-blood sugar episode, and need to get food in them quickly. They may have just been in a huge fight with a spouse, friend or relative, and need to go off by themselves and blow off steam. They may be worried sick about a family member who was just hospitalized due to a serious medical condition, whose bedside they are trying to get to, and though they are trying to be polite about it, they don't need anyone holding them up. There could be a thousand and one reasons why a person seems uncomfortable around you, and it seems a bit odd that you would feel compelled to make it about you, as though you are the only one of your kind in existence. Trust me, you're not.
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You may think you know why a person seems uncomfortable around you, but unless you're a mind reader, you probably don't. Could it be about your race or religion or whatever it is that makes you different from themselves? Yes, of course. However, some people are uncomfortable around other people - period. They have their own reasons for that, which you will probably never understand since you haven't walked in their shoes. When a person with anxiety issues is around other people, they simply can't help showing their anxiety. The other person will often automatically assume that it has to do with whatever it is that defines them as being most different from the anxious one. If they are extra tall, or extra short, or extra fat, or extra thin, or white, or black, or male, or female, or gay - or whatever it may be that makes them different - they will tend to jump to conclusions.
Trust me - it isn't always all about you. It might be because the person has such an inferiority complex that they constantly feel they are being judged by others. They may believe that they have body odor and that they are offending the other person simply by being in their airspace and want to get away as quickly as possible. They may have bowel or bladder issues, and they need to find a bathroom soonest. They may be having a low-blood sugar episode, and need to get food in them quickly. They may have just been in a huge fight with a spouse, friend or relative, and need to go off by themselves and blow off steam. They may be worried sick about a family member who was just hospitalized due to a serious medical condition, whose bedside they are trying to get to, and though they are trying to be polite about it, they don't need anyone holding them up. There could be a thousand and one reasons why a person seems uncomfortable around you, and it seems a bit odd that you would feel compelled to make it about you, as though you are the only one of your kind in existence. Trust me, you're not.