Is it normal to suppress your feelings to appear polite?

Here in America we just tell them that we'll kick their asses if they don't respect our personal space.

Everytime someone bumps into you, bump back. If they dare to defy your right to personal space, just bump back harder.

If someone cuts you off on the road (dunno how old you are), you should probably hang back since cars are fucking dangerous. We should all pick our battles, after all.

But...If someone cuts in front of you...like in a lunch line...or even a line at the bank...Then you tell them something.

I did this once. I told them something by recutting my way back into my rightful place in line.

This girl thought it would be funny to cut in front of the quiet kid in order to get her lunch faster...This happened to me in the 9th grade.

I have had this happen to me many times...Shyness is a curse, sadly...But not a fucking death sentence...

I looked at this fucking hoe right in her nappy ass bun and told her to move. She didn't budge.

I then lost my patience and cut in front of this fucking bitch, RIGHT back into my rightful place in line. I then claimed my cheesy nachos and sought after the nearest empty staircase so that I could consume them in peace. They didn't bother me after that.

So yeah...it is "normal" to suppress your feelings, but that doesn't mean that it is healthy.

Next time someone tries to pull one over on you, tell it like it is.

Don't let them take your fucking nachos from you. THOSE ARE YOUR FUCKING NACHOS! That is all.

The point of that lesson is to not fly off the handle any time something happens that you "don't like." You can make things worse by being affected by your emotions like that

We had a driver who came back for school who was upset at the lack of staff. Every night we closed together he'd always be angry and complain about how he has to do everything (cuz I sit on my ass for half the night while he makes all the pizzas, oh wait it was the other way around)

One night I talked to him about it. He said he's allowed to be angry because he feels anger. I asked, and made clear I wasn't saying something subtle, why would we want him there when we're fully staffed if this is how he shows us he handles stress. He said something like he's really good at his job and blah blah blah. Totally missed the point, he couldn't see beyond himself because the anger he experienced was more valid to him than the concept of a team working together for a shared goal. I couldn't stand his negativity and other people couldn't stand his work ethic.

He ended up quitting, and yes we're short another driver now but you know what, the job is somehow easier now that there's not some amped up little wanna be gangsta reacting to every little thing he doesn't like

Your dads probably don't want you to become like. People like that, men like that, they don't have anyone's respect. They may have friends, they may have SOs, but unless they're related by blood or marriage to someone with power they're not gonna get far in life. They're gonna constantly wear out their welcome at work, and with everyone else in their lives except for maybe their mother and a few other people

Is your step father and you counterpart your mom? I am not sure who you are referring to as your counterpart exactly. You mentioned your father advising the same, so I am guessing you guys are referring to random people you meet.

This is always tough in how you shouldn't beat the shit out of people that dispresect you to the point of you and yours suffering at the hands of others, but you also should never just put your tail between your legs and be a victim.

I hate to say it but a lot of it depends on your socio economic demographics and your age; ultimately the repercussions.

If you guys are dirt poor and have nothing tongsne or lose, your respect is more important and you will need to stand up for yourself with street justice to regain respect.

If you have something going for you socially and finacially you should be wary and let losers actions slide off you because you know you have too much to lose in the courts.

It is often difficult to transition between the two mindsets but ultimately I suppose you're going to fight your battles in court one way or the other.

The goals should be to become the person with a paid attorney that is improving their life and has to worry about fines as opposed to the person with a free attorney that is concerned with jail time.

Do NOT take that advice. Do not say sorry. The person who is cutting in front of you should be the one that is sorry, and a person should watch where they are going.

Normal I think but if it's making you more angry over time, you need to show the anger instead, especially if something wasn't just an accident (or a really stupid one) and they shouldn't have done that. Just do it within limits. Dont turn physically violent and in most cases dont yell. But you need to relive it in some way, if you dont you may lose control eventually, it will damage your own quality of life and it can actually lead to a heart attack if you're angry over time.

It's normal if you're British.

At work I get blamed by shit thats not even in my control and i just be polite and accept responsibility so I dont have to snitch on the other boss thats really responsible. You gotta pick your battles.