Neither of those incidents should've happened to anyone and I'm sorry they happened to you, but how is it helping you to hold on to the pain? I suggest Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to change the messages in your head or you could do it yourself, by working out in advance a counter message to focus on when the memories come up: for example, something as simple as "That was a long time ago, that was then and this is now, I choose not to let it affect me any more." Try that EVERY TIME for a couple of weeks and see how you go, if it's working keep doing it.
Good luck! I have a memory of a primary school teacher singling me out for a smack when it was obvious it was a group of 4 of us leaning out windows when we should've been doing something else: it bothered me for years until I tried the above technique and now I can look back and see her as being, like your moronic kinder teacher, totally unsuited to have anything to do with small children and her behaviour was nothing to do with me.
IIN to still be bitter about my kindergarten teacher?
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Neither of those incidents should've happened to anyone and I'm sorry they happened to you, but how is it helping you to hold on to the pain? I suggest Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to change the messages in your head or you could do it yourself, by working out in advance a counter message to focus on when the memories come up: for example, something as simple as "That was a long time ago, that was then and this is now, I choose not to let it affect me any more." Try that EVERY TIME for a couple of weeks and see how you go, if it's working keep doing it.
Good luck! I have a memory of a primary school teacher singling me out for a smack when it was obvious it was a group of 4 of us leaning out windows when we should've been doing something else: it bothered me for years until I tried the above technique and now I can look back and see her as being, like your moronic kinder teacher, totally unsuited to have anything to do with small children and her behaviour was nothing to do with me.