Is it normal to still be a virgin at 20?

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I'm 20 years old and I have not yet lost my virginity, despite countless attempts at doing so. I've figured it may have something to do with the fact that I'm on the autism spectrum, because girls don't really seem to be as interested in me as in other guys. Over the past months, I've been thinking of hiring an escort just to lose it once and for all. The problem is that it's strictly forbidden in the country I live in, thus I'm risking jail time. Is it worth it? I'm not sure.

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  • mauzi
    5 years ago | pl

    find a girl who's also autistic and get your mutual freak on

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    • LloydAsher
      5 years ago

      Jesus dude... but if your standards are that low...

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      • mauzi
        5 years ago

        What? OP said he's autistic, why shouldn't he go out with someone at his level of social functioning?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          I actually had a girlfriend once, believe it or not. She happened to be autistic and absolutely unstable. That was a really bad experience. And no, she absolutely refused to have sex.

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        • LloydAsher
          5 years ago

          Bad experiences especially for autistic females, very unpredictable, didn’t sleep with her but it’s not something I would repeat.

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          • mauzi
            5 years ago

            Oh sorry didn't realize you were the OP. It's unfortunate that you consider it to be low standards to go out with someone who is more "on par" with yourself. Maybe all the neurotypical women feel the same way about you, as you feel about autistic women?

            Edit: on reading your other comments here I guess I was wrong and you aren't the OP, but my point towards him still stands. You can't expect people with better skills and qualities than yourself to be interested in you

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            • LloydAsher
              5 years ago

              I’m not the OP, bad experiences as I thought they were perfectly functional turns out that even though they were 18 they were still under protections of the parent, and only by the grace of god I managed to not look like a creeper.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Don't go with a ho.

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    • brutus
      5 years ago

      This

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  • nullium
    5 years ago

    I heard that if your a virgin at the age of 30 you get powers

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    For fucks sake no-one cares about your sex life. Losing your virhinity is not a contest.

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  • canadaisntreal
    5 years ago

    Don’t hire an escort, it’s ok to be a virgin, you don’t have to race to lose your virginity (especially if it’s against the law to get an escort! Don’t do it, man).

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    • LloydAsher
      5 years ago

      Go cougar hunting that’s more efficient, they are better at it and you get experience that you can use later for younger mates.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Not worth it and being a virgin is normal.

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  • strangethingshappen
    5 years ago

    I am 25 virgin

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    • Mrown
      5 years ago

      weird flex but ok

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      • strangethingshappen
        5 years ago

        What's flex

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        • Mrown
          5 years ago

          Meaning: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Flex

          Also it's a meme, if you don't know what a meme is: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.urbandictionary.com/define.php%3fterm=Memes&amp=true

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  • Biman458
    5 years ago

    Yes it's normal. I am a man and I did not lose my virginity till I was 24. I lost it to a female friend who knew I was a virgin. We only had sex that one time and we are still friends today over 30 years later

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    Pay for a good ho if you get one. Dont get a cheap one thats gonna rob you. Get the girl thats high dollar and a freak. Oh and if you tell her on the phone you want to make porn videos with her then if shes a cop she cant arrest you for prostitution. Thats a loop hole I always use. Its the ol "im not buying a ho im making porn" trick. Very clever

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  • russellnb
    5 years ago

    Stop trying. Your virginity is a beautiful thing. Stop hanging out ewith people who think there is something wrong with your virginity.

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  • NoLifer
    5 years ago

    I mean im 25 and have not lost mine. I have accepted the fact I am probably going to die single and that is okay.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      5 years ago

      No u wont

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  • Floopington
    5 years ago

    Dude, it's perfectly normal to be a virgin at 20. I was 23. Don't fixate on it, and ffs, don't risk jail, that's just silly! Sex is not the end-all, be-all of human experience. It's just another thing. If you meet your person, if it feels right, it'll happen. Maybe soon, maybe later, who knows. Just don't go all incel on yourself, that's not good for anyone, especially you.

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  • randypete
    5 years ago

    I can help you lose your virginity

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    Respect if you want to wait until marriage. Condolences if you just haven’t had an opportunity for tail.

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  • brutus
    5 years ago

    Yiss that is normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I’m socially awkward but lost mine before 20, OP.

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    • LloydAsher
      5 years ago

      Let’s see I’m 20 and I have four notches on the belt, yet I’m not a man whore so it’s kinda natural progression.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Your first root is going to be shit, don't worry, it gets a lot better. There is no hurry but if you want to get a pro I wont not" recommend it, just get a clean professional one! Don't settle for a $5 crack whore. We have legal pro's here in auzzie. Not that I had one but I had a friend that was one, she wasn't on the street though she was in like a so called shop/brothel

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  • shaw19
    5 years ago

    Go to a bar try to meet a girl and take her home and do it that simple.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Doesn't work for me. I'm extremely socially awkward.

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      • SKDM007
        5 years ago

        watch king richez on youtube

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      • shaw19
        5 years ago

        Take a few drinks that will help now go do it most the time I can take someone home from the bar .

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