What if the kid does it only cause yu put the wallet where he can find it? Come on,you cannot tempt a kid like that then go:I knew it!and just scold him.He might have not even stolen anything before and you just forgot how much money you had in it.I suggest you give him a speech about private property,without actually blaming him for anything,explaining him why stealing is wrong and what could happen to him if he does it as an adult.Alternative: watch a movie with him in which there is a thief stealing something then take it from there.Tell him:it is a crime not to steal a breadloaf if you are hungy but if they catch you doing it in saudi arabia they would cut your hand off!
Knowing you would ground him probably would just add some extra thrill to it,but he would not stop.
If it is a kid with some troubles understanding the message you can just steal something from him and then go:do you like how it feels getting something taken away from you?Well that is how I felt. Then give him back whatever you stole from him and as you give him a big hug tell him to promise you never to steal anything ever again cause you would not like the thought of him going to jail over a breadloaf or get his hand cut off.
Doing what you have in mind only would teach him:to steal if he knows for sure he won't get caught,so you could actually trigger a backfiring reaction making him ever more able to identify the right victims to steal stuff from,so he would just learn to be a better thief.He might stop stealing from you,but steal more from other kids.
That of course if he really did steal anything.If he did not you'd be just tipping him off.
My dad handled it this way:he found out why I was stealing money from his wallet,then just started giving me the money I needed so I did not have to sneak in his room and take it.But at the same time he made sure he left only the amount of money I would need in the wallet,so I had to decide whether to take it and leave the wallet empty,or leave it there and ask him later to give me the money I needed and of course tell him what I was gonna do with it.
Like:I know you need the money,I just wanna make sure you do not get in trouble to get it and use it wisely,and right now,you are doing the first thing and not the other.
Got it?
IIN to set a trap for someone to catch them in the act?
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What if the kid does it only cause yu put the wallet where he can find it? Come on,you cannot tempt a kid like that then go:I knew it!and just scold him.He might have not even stolen anything before and you just forgot how much money you had in it.I suggest you give him a speech about private property,without actually blaming him for anything,explaining him why stealing is wrong and what could happen to him if he does it as an adult.Alternative: watch a movie with him in which there is a thief stealing something then take it from there.Tell him:it is a crime not to steal a breadloaf if you are hungy but if they catch you doing it in saudi arabia they would cut your hand off!
Knowing you would ground him probably would just add some extra thrill to it,but he would not stop.
If it is a kid with some troubles understanding the message you can just steal something from him and then go:do you like how it feels getting something taken away from you?Well that is how I felt. Then give him back whatever you stole from him and as you give him a big hug tell him to promise you never to steal anything ever again cause you would not like the thought of him going to jail over a breadloaf or get his hand cut off.
Doing what you have in mind only would teach him:to steal if he knows for sure he won't get caught,so you could actually trigger a backfiring reaction making him ever more able to identify the right victims to steal stuff from,so he would just learn to be a better thief.He might stop stealing from you,but steal more from other kids.
That of course if he really did steal anything.If he did not you'd be just tipping him off.
My dad handled it this way:he found out why I was stealing money from his wallet,then just started giving me the money I needed so I did not have to sneak in his room and take it.But at the same time he made sure he left only the amount of money I would need in the wallet,so I had to decide whether to take it and leave the wallet empty,or leave it there and ask him later to give me the money I needed and of course tell him what I was gonna do with it.
Like:I know you need the money,I just wanna make sure you do not get in trouble to get it and use it wisely,and right now,you are doing the first thing and not the other.
Got it?