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The missus gave me choice of divorce or chastity cage because she found I had a affair should she be doin this. The affair finished 4 months ago I don’t want to leave but she should trust me
| We should get divorce | 21 | |
| She should not ask me to do this choice | 12 | |
| I should have chastity cage | 25 |
She fucked her boss, and you're fucking around on her.
Are you 2 in fucking high-school ?
Grow the fuck UP !!
Yes I understand what you say and why you think that. But 4 years ago I found out she was having affair with her married boss. I wanted a divorce but stayed in the end because of the children. We worked through it and I forgave her eventually. I didn’t do this to get back at her and I know 2 wrongs don’t make it ok. But if I can get past it without making her lock herself into some device then why do I have to wear one of these things.
She can't force you to do either: why not tell her you don't agree to either divorce or a chastity cage? Instead, offer her the option of marriage counselling for both of you as a couple. If she refuses that option you'll know she's just being vindictive and authoritarian and doesn't want to save the marriage anyway.
You may divorce in the end but given that she had sex with someone else she's not in a position to make such ridiculous rules now you've done the same thing.
If you want to be with her, then take the chastity thing she will definitely change her mind along the way
If you really love her you will wear the chastity, after all if she wants sex she will unlock you, and it is not embarrassing at all if your are not gonna use it with anyone else.
She only says I need to wear it when we’re apart so it’s not about the wanting sex it’s the whole idea of having to have it on for several hours a day, doesn’t sound very comfortable, plus the inconvenience when I need to pee. On top of that I just don’t see why I should have to wear it
Forcing you to wear a chastity cage is abusive. Leaving her will be hard but it’s the only chance you have at future happiness.
Why should she trust you? If someone cheated on me I could never trust them again, I'd be insulted if they told me I should trust them. She shouldn't ask you to wear that thing, but she should just divorce you straight away instead.
Oh right, you never mentioned that. Well then I guess she would be a hypocrite for not trusting you then if you trusted her afterwards. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship either way though.
If I were in your shoes I would have left her after I found out about her sleeping with her boss.
If you don't want to divorce, don't wear the stupid chastity cage. Just tell her you're not wearing that stupid contraption, and if she attempts to get violent with you then call the cops, and press charges against her for spousal abuse. Get the best lawyer you can afford, divorce her crazy ass, and sue for sole custody of the kids.
Also don't cheat on her, or anyone, cheating is gross.
Keep in mind the majority of the people telling you to divorce aren't married and some are divorced. Perhaps they aren't the greatest people to get marriage advice from.
Dont listen to the divorce talk. Just fix it. It's really not that big of a deal. Y'all both cheated. You can figure it out. If she insists on you wearing a lock insist on her wearing one too. But yall should both be adults and quit with the chasity talk.
Women get so pissed even at the thought of their men cheating but women do the same god damn thing. They are no less guilty.
Unless the chastity device is part of a sub/dom lifestyle, it is not an option. Unless you want it to be.
Might be time to have a serious discussion about divorce.
Be a man and get a divorce. Financially it might be tough at first, but pretending everything is ok “for the kids” is just as bad as the acts that caused this
Leave, dude. You can't call yourself a man if your missus is forcing you to wear chastity. Also, your relationship is probably fucked no anyway.
Hey pal you messed up in the relationship it’s going to take time for her to fully trust u again, but also think about why you cheated in the first place, is ur “misses”who you really what to be with? If you really what to keep spending your life with her then u might not have a choice with the belt but if you rather Not then you know what to do. Your life is ur own
If I were your wife the only choice I'd make you do is between night school or distance education.
I don’t think she is a terrible person shes good wife and mother and I should not have had affair i know this. I also no she is struggling to trust me and why that is. I never had or wanted a chastity cage and don’t know where she got the idea probably internet. But I’ve looked them up and read stuff about them and don’t think they are a good idea. They look uncomfortable and I would have to sit down to pee. Does anyone have experience of these things is it as bad as it sounds?