I've done the same sort of thing for the same reason: probably the stupidest was that I finally got an alcoholic ex-lover to move out and then a year later I let her move back into my house as a housemate because she said she was in AA and clean and sober. She was drunk when I went to help her move her stuff, abused me because I couldn't carry heavy things with a sprained wrist while she sat around smoking and I still let her move back in!
It took months to get her out again and in the meantime she ripped me off financially, stole & hocked some of precious possessions, including a family heirloom, crashed her car while drunk and told the cops I'd been driving it & generally disrupted my life. Unfortunately bludgers like her and your "friend" can spot people like you and me a mile off, but I did learn a hard lesson from it and I'm nowhere near as gullible as I used to be.
Yes Ellenna, I think you're absolutely right, 'they can spot people like you and me a mile off'.
I too have learnt some lessons from it, one of them being that some so called 'friends' are all too quick to take advantage of my good nature and my kindness.
However, the error they make is mistaking my kindness and generosity towards them for stupidity.
They may think they are pulling the wool over my eyes, but in actual fact, not much gets past me even though I may not respond immediately or at all.
In hindsight I thought she was manipulative, scheming and argumentative.
I also think she thought that she could hook me in through having sex with her as I've been single for a while, then try to claim some of my assets down the track.
That's my gut feeling about her.
In future, I think I'll have housemates sign a contract!
IIN to not want to continue friendship with a housemate from hell?
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I've done the same sort of thing for the same reason: probably the stupidest was that I finally got an alcoholic ex-lover to move out and then a year later I let her move back into my house as a housemate because she said she was in AA and clean and sober. She was drunk when I went to help her move her stuff, abused me because I couldn't carry heavy things with a sprained wrist while she sat around smoking and I still let her move back in!
It took months to get her out again and in the meantime she ripped me off financially, stole & hocked some of precious possessions, including a family heirloom, crashed her car while drunk and told the cops I'd been driving it & generally disrupted my life. Unfortunately bludgers like her and your "friend" can spot people like you and me a mile off, but I did learn a hard lesson from it and I'm nowhere near as gullible as I used to be.
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Yes Ellenna, I think you're absolutely right, 'they can spot people like you and me a mile off'.
I too have learnt some lessons from it, one of them being that some so called 'friends' are all too quick to take advantage of my good nature and my kindness.
However, the error they make is mistaking my kindness and generosity towards them for stupidity.
They may think they are pulling the wool over my eyes, but in actual fact, not much gets past me even though I may not respond immediately or at all.
In hindsight I thought she was manipulative, scheming and argumentative.
I also think she thought that she could hook me in through having sex with her as I've been single for a while, then try to claim some of my assets down the track.
That's my gut feeling about her.
In future, I think I'll have housemates sign a contract!
thanks!