In all fairness, the OP's issue is slightly more important than liking or disliking a person's physical appearance!
The fact that this relationship has progressed for 12 months and actually has them living in the same house says a lot about the OP and how he wasn't looking for a quick fuck. That said, it IS normal for people to desire sex with their partner - otherwise there wouldn't be a human race! While I understand that there are a wide range of "Intersex" conditions, expecting everyone to just "ignore" the equipment their partner was born with is just plain stupid. Some of us, myself included, can not get aroused at the thought of sex with a woman who has a penis.
You will note in my earlier post, I suggested that one option for the OP would be to enquire if his girlfriend was intending on having gender reassignment surgery. Not that I can say from experience (having never had an Intersex/transsexual girlfriend), but if I had an emotional bond in this situation, it would be something I would need to know before I decided on pursuing the relationship further or terminating it.
Now I'm anti-label, but for the record I wouldn't call a male in a relationship with an Intersex (or transsexual) person who identifies as a woman "gay", or "bi". If they can overlook the physical similarities between their genetalia and those of their partner, good for them. I couldn't do it, and I'm sure I'm not alone.
Not wanting to have sex with a woman who lacks a vagina, or who has an appendage visually identifiable as a penis, does not make me homophobic, or transphobic, or bigoted. I don't want to eat shit, or fuck a horse either, and most people would regard that as perfectly normal.
I'll support your right to be whomever and whatever you choose to be, and will do so until you deny me the same right of free choice. Equal rights for all also means the right to chose to say no.
True I just got eeally angry at other post that were posted and the bashing. Yes I agree that every one has a choice but there is a right and wrong choice that varies from person to person and that can end some ones life. Not that I would be the one to kill some one unless they bashed on some one and I was next to them then thats their fault.
But I suppose I shouldnt let it affect me cuz I have no control of other people.
IIN to not want to be with my girlfriend anymore?
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In all fairness, the OP's issue is slightly more important than liking or disliking a person's physical appearance!
The fact that this relationship has progressed for 12 months and actually has them living in the same house says a lot about the OP and how he wasn't looking for a quick fuck. That said, it IS normal for people to desire sex with their partner - otherwise there wouldn't be a human race! While I understand that there are a wide range of "Intersex" conditions, expecting everyone to just "ignore" the equipment their partner was born with is just plain stupid. Some of us, myself included, can not get aroused at the thought of sex with a woman who has a penis.
You will note in my earlier post, I suggested that one option for the OP would be to enquire if his girlfriend was intending on having gender reassignment surgery. Not that I can say from experience (having never had an Intersex/transsexual girlfriend), but if I had an emotional bond in this situation, it would be something I would need to know before I decided on pursuing the relationship further or terminating it.
Now I'm anti-label, but for the record I wouldn't call a male in a relationship with an Intersex (or transsexual) person who identifies as a woman "gay", or "bi". If they can overlook the physical similarities between their genetalia and those of their partner, good for them. I couldn't do it, and I'm sure I'm not alone.
Not wanting to have sex with a woman who lacks a vagina, or who has an appendage visually identifiable as a penis, does not make me homophobic, or transphobic, or bigoted. I don't want to eat shit, or fuck a horse either, and most people would regard that as perfectly normal.
I'll support your right to be whomever and whatever you choose to be, and will do so until you deny me the same right of free choice. Equal rights for all also means the right to chose to say no.
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True I just got eeally angry at other post that were posted and the bashing. Yes I agree that every one has a choice but there is a right and wrong choice that varies from person to person and that can end some ones life. Not that I would be the one to kill some one unless they bashed on some one and I was next to them then thats their fault.
But I suppose I shouldnt let it affect me cuz I have no control of other people.