This is what I hate about the world. You are emotionally attracted to this woman, and now you want to blow her off because the situation doesn't fit some pre-conceived notion of "Normal"?
Okay, the lying about the periods I can understand you being pissed about (although, it sounds like it could have been a defensive reaction on her part to avoid your sexual advances while she decided if she could trust you with her "secret").
I can even understand being uncomfortable about the whole "Dick" thing. Seriously, if I took a girl to bed to discover she had "a little extra in the front", I think I'd probably suffer a power failure too. BUT, this isn't purely about sex is it. You have (or at least had) an emotional connection to this woman.
The way I see it, you have 3 options.
1) Accept the woman you love is sans-vagina and has a really big clitoris, and learn to love her as she is. Short of actual vanilla vaginal sex, there isn't a lot you can't do with the girl sexually.
2) Explain you have a phobia of cocks on women, and see if she is looking to have sex reassignment surgery. Don't be surprised if she says no, a lot of trans-women don't want the surgery (Which I don't understand personally, but not being trans, I don't argue it). At least then you can decide if you want to wait, or not.
3) Gently and respectfully explain to the poor girl that you can't get over your own hang-ups, and that the relationship is over.
IIN to not want to be with my girlfriend anymore?
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This is what I hate about the world. You are emotionally attracted to this woman, and now you want to blow her off because the situation doesn't fit some pre-conceived notion of "Normal"?
Okay, the lying about the periods I can understand you being pissed about (although, it sounds like it could have been a defensive reaction on her part to avoid your sexual advances while she decided if she could trust you with her "secret").
I can even understand being uncomfortable about the whole "Dick" thing. Seriously, if I took a girl to bed to discover she had "a little extra in the front", I think I'd probably suffer a power failure too. BUT, this isn't purely about sex is it. You have (or at least had) an emotional connection to this woman.
The way I see it, you have 3 options.
1) Accept the woman you love is sans-vagina and has a really big clitoris, and learn to love her as she is. Short of actual vanilla vaginal sex, there isn't a lot you can't do with the girl sexually.
2) Explain you have a phobia of cocks on women, and see if she is looking to have sex reassignment surgery. Don't be surprised if she says no, a lot of trans-women don't want the surgery (Which I don't understand personally, but not being trans, I don't argue it). At least then you can decide if you want to wait, or not.
3) Gently and respectfully explain to the poor girl that you can't get over your own hang-ups, and that the relationship is over.