Is it normal to not tell someone you're a virgin before having sex with them?

I never told my first. I didn't want him to get weird about it and by the time I decided I wanted to start having sex my virginity just wasn't a big deal to me. I wish I had done it sooner.

You can't say it after 'cuz youre not a virgin anymore

One of my closest childhood friends decided to do that. She was 19 and didn't want to be a virgin anymore, so she decided to have sex with a cute guy who just moved to town. He honestly seemed like a nice guy, so I never warned her against it, but after they had sex, he went to a party the next night and tried to tell a bunch of people that she was the worst lay he's ever had. I was there when he said it, so I said to him, "She was a virgin before you! What's your excuse?" Everyone laughed at him because they all knew my friend too. He was so embarrassed, he left the party right away.

Be careful what you wish for. My friend was upset for weeks by the situation. Honesty, is probably the best policy. If you find the right guy, he won't be bothered by it and might he be a little more considerate too.

LOL.

oh man. mine knows i haven't done it and he better be pretty civil and gentle the first time we do.

i can't imagine not having told. i think i'd be scared of damaging something in there. i think the guy needs to know so he knows how to treat you.. to say the least!

I never told my first that I was a virgin. I also never returned any of his phone calls afterward. Losing my virginity did not make me attached to the dude in any way.

Not everybody wants their first time to be special. That's probably why they don't tell you. Some guys get freaked out over it and not all girls hold their virginities in such high regard. At the end of the day, sex is just sex.

Watch 40 year old virgin. Lulz

I hate that! I had a dude swear to me he'd had sex before and it turned out I was his first and he fell HARD. I never would have consented to sex (and certainly not where we were) if he had been up front with me! OMG the DRAMA!

I guess because I lost my virginity to someone I had been dating a long time and who I really cared about I felt that it was something special (cliche I know...) that everyone would want to feel.

I would NEVER want to make anyone uncomfortable, because that's a lot of what the first time is, and I guess it's easier to start enjoying things right off the bat when you aren't worried about every little thing that could seem 'wrong'.

(and to the last commenter, I AM a girl, and two of the people who didn't disclose were males, could they be intimidated by a more sexually experienced female?)

Yeah, thats strange...usually people tell someone that.

Normal...

Its not a nice feeling.
Only been told I've taken it once though, if her aim was to frighten me away from commitment...then it kin' worked.

I hate that. Even though its never happend to me, it happend to my boyfriend before and he felt like he had to stick with her because of it. A big mess.