That's quite a pessimistic outlook. See the kid doesn't hate me, we've never gotten into arguments and I don't ask him to do anything. The think I'm looking for is something akin to a father son relationship, though I know this will never happen to the extent that I would like. For the sake of transparency the kid's dad died before the kid was born.
As for the marriage nothing so far has impacted it. I've been happily married for a year now and I have to say that the woman I married is worth it.
Maybe the question I should be asking is how the prognosis looks? Is there a chance, maybe years down the line, where both the kid and I can feel a bond towards each other? I refuse to give up and call it quits, there's too much on the line for me to leave now.
Alright, well the father not being in the picture AT ALL certainly changes things. I think what you are doing is noble and you have a great outlook. Based on that positivity, you have a very good chance. Your patience and fortitude will be your strength.
I wouldn't do this myself, but that doesn't make my outlook "correct". I want to tell you that years down the line the kid will be appreciative of you and all you have to offer. The realist in me is still wary, but I think you have a great attitude.
Why would you even be considering leaving? This kid won't be around for ever anyway and you've done your best by the sound of it. Stop stressing and enjoy your marriage!
As to the future with the kid, who knows? And what does your wife think about all this?
IIN to not love my stepchild?
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That's quite a pessimistic outlook. See the kid doesn't hate me, we've never gotten into arguments and I don't ask him to do anything. The think I'm looking for is something akin to a father son relationship, though I know this will never happen to the extent that I would like. For the sake of transparency the kid's dad died before the kid was born.
As for the marriage nothing so far has impacted it. I've been happily married for a year now and I have to say that the woman I married is worth it.
Maybe the question I should be asking is how the prognosis looks? Is there a chance, maybe years down the line, where both the kid and I can feel a bond towards each other? I refuse to give up and call it quits, there's too much on the line for me to leave now.
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Alright, well the father not being in the picture AT ALL certainly changes things. I think what you are doing is noble and you have a great outlook. Based on that positivity, you have a very good chance. Your patience and fortitude will be your strength.
I wouldn't do this myself, but that doesn't make my outlook "correct". I want to tell you that years down the line the kid will be appreciative of you and all you have to offer. The realist in me is still wary, but I think you have a great attitude.
That counts for something in this crazy world.
Why would you even be considering leaving? This kid won't be around for ever anyway and you've done your best by the sound of it. Stop stressing and enjoy your marriage!
As to the future with the kid, who knows? And what does your wife think about all this?
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I'm not considering leaving, I was just trying to say that I'm not going to give up on this.